My Bus Crash Update!

Just a quick update! I’m back home now! :D My leg is in tremendous pain but I’m alive! If most of you didn’t see my previous post I was in a bus crash, and unfortunately we were struck by a lorry however I was sat right where the lorry actually hit! Like I said before, once I’ve recovered I will post in detail but I’ve found some pictures I just wanted to share!

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I was sat where the huge dent is! I’m very lucky to be alive!

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My leg crushed which was crushed in the accident, as you can see the bottom half is pretty snapped! My thigh bone also broke which you can’t see but man did it hurt!

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My bloody head where the glass went into it!

Another angle!

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I haven’t got permission from the 3 guys in the photo however you can see where the bus was over turned, what happened was my leg was trapped as I was sprung forward so I was dangling from the window with only my broken leg holding me there, so painful! I feel like I’m moaning too much but I just want to keep you guys updated! I used to post pretty much everyday so it’s a bit of a shock to my usual readers!

There’s not much more I can go into as of yet however I just wanted to keep you all updated! I still feel so thankful for everyone who helped me in the accident and the hospital staff members who treated me with so much care and attention, I’m forever grateful as it made my stay far easier!

I will keep you all updated however I won’t be posting like I used to for a while, hope everyone has a good Christmas and New Year! Stay safe!

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The Voices That Changed The World!

It’s time for a change people; we need a voice and not just a regular voice, a real one. I’m not sure if you’ve noticed but the world has been at unease as of late. Take the tension building in America for example or the NHS crisis over here in the UK. It makes me feel uncomfortable, I’m not sure if it does you. I obviously understand there’s always going to be a crisis wherever you go but it gets quite serious when race is involved or an entire health system is involved. It makes me think, there’s no one who stands up and speaks out any more. You don’t get any one giving speeches or anyone trying to motivate and help others. We need to bring back the power of a good old fashioned speech!

I’m not talking about public speaking either, admittedly a speech is public speaking however you need someone with flare, someone with that ‘it’ factor. Someone who can hold an entire crowd captive with the power of words, it’s a true art form that’s slowly died out. Not that there’s anything against public speakers of this day and age, I have tremendous respect for them but there’s not that one male or female that is captivating enough for the whole world to see.

Sure you have politicians and spokes people giving speeches but they just don’t have a driving force behind them. A speech is a deadly weapon; it’s not to be taken lightly. Take Hitler for example, his speeches motivated and rallied enough power to have a driving force to go into World War 2. I’m not condoning his actions in any way however that’s the serious power a speech can have. It’s a memory stained within your mind, a voice that repeats itself when you’re lost. It’s something you can relate to.

But we don’t have that anymore, we have de-motivated teenagers, bored of life adults and lazy humans who do nothing to change themselves or change their ways. I’m not trying to knock them either; I’ve been de-motivated and stressed with life. I think we all have. I guess the point I’m trying to make is we need someone with that voice, someone who can motivate an entire nation to the point where all their energy is positive. Speeches of today are light hearted and de-fused; we need someone with raw passion who genuinely wants to help improve the lives of others.

I can’t say who that voice is, but we need one and soon.

But I can ask you to listen to the previous voices of our generations and hear the sheer power and determination they had. The hunger within them is truly powerful to motivate and captivate your mind. I hope you enjoy as much as I have.

There are so many other fantastic speeches out there; these were a few of my favourites!

What are your thoughts on this?


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Who Taught You To Hate Yourself?

It’s daunting to think that the importance of looking good and living up to a false expectation of what being beautiful is has slowly crept into our daily lives and began to take form of how we live day to day. The worlds slowly changed over the past few centuries and with sites such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram controlling our whole social activity, image plays a huge role in how we operate.

But what I can’t help notice is, as these sites have improved vastly and everything we do now is shared from peer to peer, we’ve slowly began to learn how to actually hate ourselves. Yes I said it, we hate ourselves. You may not think you do it but trust me, you have and you still are. Probably this morning in fact.

Think about it…

We wake up every day, look in the mirror and think to ourselves “Oh, I wish my hair was better” or “I wish I had clearer skin” I even do it, surely sometime in the past you have as well. It makes me wonder why? Why do we always complain about ourselves and the way we look? Can’t we just be happy living in our own skin?

With the media focusing hugely on looks within the whole ‘celebrity culture’ it plays a significant part in wanting the right traits and features within ourselves. My generation have grown up with this false idea that if you don’t have the ‘perfect’ hair you’re wrong or ugly. If you don’t have the ‘perfect’ skin you’re wrong or ugly. That’s not the truth. The truth is you need to learn to love yourself for who you are.

It’s shocking to know some people go to extreme lengths just to change their personal appearance all because they want to fit in with society’s needs. Or they want to get that right Instagram photo. Is social media that important to you? We need to face the facts, everyone has traits they’re not going to like about themselves, but you know what? Who cares? It shouldn’t be that big of a deal to you or to anyone else the fact your skin isn’t that clear. Why is it such a big deal?

You need to stop hating the fact that your skin, at this moment in time isn’t as clear as you want it to be. Sure if it bothers you that much you go do something about it, but to tell you the truth everyone at some point in their lives has suffered with spots. Someone in another location is waking up at this very minute thinking “Oh why am I still ugly?” but the fact is they’re not, there’s someone out there who thinks different. It’s because of the media and what everyone else is saying around them that are making them think that way.

They’re thinking that they’re not living up to the expectations of what’s going on in the ‘celebrity world’ when in reality, we’re all different. We’re born in this skin, born with these features. We need to start learning to embrace them, rather than hating them.

You’re not ugly; don’t listen to what others say. You are who you are, there’s nothing wrong with that.

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Who’s Your Hero?

As kids we’re entranced with Television, magazines and just regular foolishness. As we grow up we always have that one person who we look up to, for some its superheroes, their parents or even their teachers. But as we get older this idea of having a hero parts and it’s almost seen to be rather childish.

I remember as a child my hero would always change, it could jump from a wrestler to Spiderman. I was a wild child. Not naughty! But I was adventurous let’s say. In light of my recent blog post about being inspired and wanting to inspire, I want to help bring back the hero. It’s not supposed to be childish. Okay, maybe it is a little, but we all have a hero we look up to, am I right?

Before I tell you mine, I want to ask you the question; who’s your hero? I’m asking before because it gives you a chance to think, it can literally be anyone you think of. Anyone who inspires you motivates you or even gets you through the day! (It can be more than one folks!)

So who’s my hero?

Obviously my parents, they work their ass off all year round to put shelter above my head, heat in the house and food on the table. Don’t get me wrong I help out when I can however for all the years they worked jobs that they surely didn’t like but pushed through because me and my brother needed the essentials to live, they did so. I will never forget that. I grew up in a happy home and still continue to do so, to be able to work day in and day out a job you hate so your child can survive really means something. Working a 9-5 in a job that drains you physically and mentally can eventually take its toll; my parents haven’t shown that yet. I’m forever grateful.

I think my other hero would be Nelson Mandela, I’m pretty sure most of you know his story however the sheer determination he had to push through the pain he suffered just amazes me. The amount of power he gave to people, the amount of inspiration he provided to millions across the world and the amount of problems he personally overcame amazes me. He was a true inspiration, one of my many heroes.

Who’s your hero?


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What Are You Looking To Achieve Through Blogging?

Someone asked me the other day, “What are you trying to achieve through blogging?” and to put it bluntly; I just want to inspire and help motivate people, I want to create a voice for those who go un-heard. It’s a very ‘out-there’ statement however when I think back to the speeches and the vast amount of power people had such as Martin Luther King J.R and Malcom X it really motivates me, I understand times are different and speeches and protests aren’t as they used to be but there was always that one person who had a voice. There doesn’t seem to be someone who stands up for the people anymore. There’s not that one person who wants to present change to the world and help others.

This blog was started for reasons I’m still unsure of. At the time I created it I was perplexed with these wild ideas of starting businesses and doing all sorts (as a fresh faced 18 year old does) but then that fizzled out, but the love that was created for blogging didn’t. Up until now I wasn’t too sure where I wanted to take it. I would post about my stories and various other things but I’m starting to gather ideas where I finally want it to go.

I want it to be a voice for the people.

I want my blog to help others, to motivate them and get them through tough times. I want them to come to my site looking for help, looking for poetry, looking for stories or even just a general blog post and leave feeling satisfied. I want it to reach out to the world and gather support for everyone who needs it. I want to promote the views of the people whose voices are un-heard.

Essentially I would love to be able to keep doing what I’m doing now but reach out to a much wider audience. I want to cover controversial topics and get opinions from all over the globe. But I would love to keep my generic posts about taking trips to other countries. I don’t want to lose what I’ve created, I’m rather proud of myself for sticking this out and creating this gathering of followers I have at the moment but I feel that I can do so much more. This blog gives me the power to do so.

Obviously I’m no Martin Luther King however I want to have just a minuscule of the ambition he had so to answer the question, what do I want to achieve through this blog? I want to achieve the power to help and inspire others. I want to help promote worldly change and be able to influence others. I want it to be a voice for the people too scared to speak out. It’s a very long way off, but one day I will sit back and remember writing this post and be amazed with how far I’ve gone.

What are you looking to achieve through blogging?


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Why Am I Not Allowed To Cry?

There’s this terrible and quite frankly disgusting stigma that has been floating around for a multitude of years, centuries in fact. It’s like an unwritten rule within our society that men can’t cry. What bull crap. I apologise for the crudeness with my words but it’s something that really pisses me off.

Why can’t I cry? Is it because I’m stereotyped to be perceived as manly? Is it because I’m too scared to let it out? Or is it because I don’t want to be seen as weak?

I just want to clarify one thing, crying does not make you weak, in any way. The thing is we’re very similar to girls up until the age of around 10. We do all the same things; play in the playgrounds, run, laugh and more importantly, we cry. (Overuse of comma’s there, I’m sorry. Still love me) But then we reach that age of 12/13 and we head off to secondary school and all of a sudden it’s seen to be “weak” to cry.

You’re told to “man-up” if you cry.

You’re told “it’s girly” if you cry.

Well the fact of the matter is it’s not weak or girly. It’s a human emotion, if you need to cry you have to let it out. Otherwise you end up bottling inside you for years and years which only makes the situation worse.

It’s horrible to think that if I’m having a terrible time or a terrible day I can’t cry just because it’s not seen as manly. What defines manly? Someone who is afraid to let their emotions show? Someone who’s strong and doesn’t get fazed when they’re stressed or angry? You can’t define manliness or even put traits to it. But crying doesn’t make you less of a man, in fact it makes you stronger.

I was having a conversation with someone the other day and they said to me “men are supposed to be strong, they’re supposed to provide for the female and not show any kind of weakness, crying is a form of weakness” and to tell you the truth I was totally taken aback by this statement. I understand everyone is entitled to their opinion and I respect that however when we get down to it, we’re all humans. Genetics and genes may differ slightly but we’re humans, we’re programmed to feel emotion.

Surely crying can show a person has a deep passion and an understanding within themselves. They’re not afraid to be labelled by anyone else and are happy with the idea that crying is perfectly natural. Bottling up your tears just because you don’t want to be seen as weak is a terrible idea. Stop trying to portray the ‘tough’ guy look and just let your feelings out, who cares if you’re crying. If anyone judges you based on the fact you cry, they’re not worth it.

Now I get the whole ‘macho’ thing. I’m not someone who cries easily, it takes me a lot to get going. Films and things of that such just don’t set me off but for some people it really chokes them up. That’s understandable. What gives you the right to judge someone because they’re feeling emotional? It’s this terrible stigma we have now that men can’t cry. I don’t know where it originates from however it needs to stop. We need to get males and females talking more, rather than making everyone bottle up their thoughts and troubles to the point where they contemplate suicide.

If crying helps me express my emotion who are you to tell me I’m weak? I’m not afraid to admit it, as a human being and more specifically a male, I cry. Does that make me less of a man?

What are your thoughts on this?

Enjoy your day! :D


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Planning A Trip To Amsterdam!

I’m not going to lie to you guys, right now I’m like a giggly little girl! Lately this new job has been rather stressful but I’ve been sticking it out! The pays good and so are the hours but the work itself is very tiring and doesn’t excite me in the slightest. I guess all new jobs are daunting but I’ve had a bad streak with them as of late, I thought this one was going to be different. But I figured out something; that’s life. Just stick it out and see what happens.

My new manager is great though, he told me I have some holiday time to use up otherwise I will lose it. Two of my other friends have booked some time off in January and were thinking about going to Amsterdam, I told them yesterday I’ve got that time off and we’ve all decided to take the leap and do it! It’s nice not having to wait months upon months to book it all as well, were doing it this Sunday and we’ll be on our way in January!

I will update you guys tomorrow on where were going and all the plans! I remember my first blog posts were planning trips to Paris, Amsterdam and NYC. It’s fantastic to think one of those has become reality and now the second is also happening. It’s as if this blog’s gave me the confidence to do it!

Sorry it’s such a short post today, I’m at work and on my break at the moment. That’s also why the grammar’s off! Please still love me!

Enjoy your day!


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Ferguson – From the Perspective of the UK.

What did you expect? This one was never going to go away lightly.

Before I get into this I just want to note I hope this doesn’t offend anyone, it’s a very touchy subject. Coming from the UK it could be seen a bit judgemental however it’s such a controversial situation that really needs to be looked into and discussed, I would love to get your thoughts and ideas on this but please be respectful.

We all know the story, there are two sides. We may never know what ‘actually’ happened but we’re talking about what’s happening right now.

The grand jury have decided Officer Darren Wilson will not be charged.

From what I’ve gathered in the news, it’s like a ‘war-zone’ out there. In some ways I respect their actions but it’s hard to come to terms with the route that’s being taken. Images I’ve found from BBC and CNN show cop cars ablaze, smashed and looted stores and a pain and anguish upon the communities face.

Was this the route to take? Yes and no. I can understand the protests, there’s this sense of being screwed over, a cover-up and more importantly a dis-trust within the police. I can’t talk for all police officers but most are good, genuine people. They’re doing their jobs, why should they be the ones having bricks hurled at them because one officer’s views were completely outrageous.

Having said that, that’s their jobs. This was surely to be expected.

But why destroy your community’s livelihood? That helps no one, sure it can show you’re serious, you’re prepared to take action into your own hands but surely you need to devise a simpler plan rather than destroying stores. Destroying cars that people need to get to work. Doing damage to the place you live in, it just seems silly.

One quote I’ve found from BBC sums this up perfectly: “You can’t just go shoot an 18-year-old who’s unarmed on the street, despite what the story may have been, he was unarmed and you are an armed law enforcement officer who’s been trained in combat. So I think people are rightfully upset.”

That’s the truth. There has to be justice for that, a young man’s life has been taken. A mother goes to sleep without a son. It’s not fair; life isn’t fair you could say but surely there needs to be justice. But putting innocent members of the public lives in danger is not the way to go about it. Emotions are going to be high; of course violence will be rife however one person’s actions are not the same for all.

I think one of the best points in this situation was made by the victim’s family. “Answering violence with violence is not the appropriate reaction.” They also asked everyone to “campaign to ensure that every police officer working the streets in this country wears a body camera.”

If the officer was wearing a camera maybe none of this would have happened, it’s a ‘what-if’ statement but there’s some depth to look into having officers wear cameras. It stops fraudulent activity, it brings hard evidence to their cases and more importantly it can save lives.

Statistics show at least 25 fires were started, 13 people were injured and 29 arrests were made. 25 fires, is such a shocking statistic, it’s tragic to think this is all caused from anger, hurt and dismay. The public have their right to be frightened, scared and shocked. They’ve lost all trust for the police force. From the community’s perspective they assume the police can get away with anything, they can go around killing people and have no repercussions for it.

Michael Browns killing has spread a further thought into the minds of the public; race starts to become a huge play into the situation. It’s sparked the thought that if you’re a young black male in America your life isn’t worth that much. (Not my opinion but has been spoken widely in the news from the UK) it saddens me to think this is what is happening in 2014.

Like I said I hope this hasn’t offended anyone, I never wanted to do so. I just wanted to get the viewpoint of someone from the UK, who’s safe in their home out there. It’s truly horrible what’s going on, I can only image the distraught within the community but fighting violence with more violence isn’t helping. It’s worsening the situation.

If it has offended you in any way, please tell me via the comments section or via email.

What are your views on this situation?

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Should University Be Free?

Before I start this I can only apologise, my work schedule changed last week and I had to go in much earlier. I usually have more time in the day to write a post but I was called in so early I just didn’t have the time! I vowed to do a post a day but it was just impossible, I’m sorry!*Hangs head in shame*

After my grovelling apology, we can actually get to the question at hand:

Should university/education be free?

With the cost of tuition fees and the ever crunching cost of living rising, it makes you wonder should our right to learn be free? Should students have to pay thousands upon thousands of pounds to learn a skill but then be crippled with debt afterwards? On the 19th of November thousands of people in the UK were protesting this very question. It raises some interesting points.

This argument is very debatable; it can go two different ways. What’s the best way to go about this? Of course a pros and cons list!

Pros to free Education:

  • A greater equality, free education can give anyone and everyone the chance to learn. Obviously you need specific requirements however it just widens the aspect to everyone being able to partake in university. If someone has to pay a vast amount of money to study it can deter them and lead them into another path that they didn’t want to go down. We have the right to experience university and to be able to access the knowledge and experience it offers. It gives us the right to understand that aspect of life, gain crucial knowledge in a specific sector and teach you a life lesson. Why should we have to pay substantial amounts for that?
  • For the more financially disadvantaged individuals it gives them a chance to experience university and pursue a career they want. The crippling loans and debts can take its toll on a person. Especially after university when you have rent, bills, food and all the essentials to get as well. The vast amount of pressure placed on an individual can halt a person’s performance. The repayment of the loans can take decades however with free education we can go to a university without a crippling debt weighing down on us and we can leave with an education and degree to benefit us in years to come. (Obviously there’s a lot of cons to these so stick with me)
  • Higher education can often lead to a more productive work ethic; it can lead to a more educated and cultured country and will produce a much higher performing leadership. With this free education it gives people the chance to study a subject in depth and it gives them the chance to dedicate their time to it, helping them make much more crucial decisions in the future.

Cons to free Education:

  • The education itself is free, the qualification isn’t. You don’t have to go to college or university to educate yourself on what you wish to learn. You can even look on your mobile nowadays and find what you want. You pay the fees to get the qualification itself. I can go out right now and learn all about science; sure I would have to pay for a few hundred books, however I can still learn the essentials of what you’re learning. The only difference is you would get a qualification at the end of it. You get that piece of paper saying you dedicated your time to learning it. You should have to pay for that, it’s not a free ticket.
  • The cost would be far too high. In regards to primary and secondary education, yes it should be free. That’s where you learn the essentials and the skills to survive in life. University on the other hand isn’t a necessity; it’s only a necessity for some. People can live without it. University can’t be viewed as an entitlement that’s provided to everyone, if you wish to attend you should have to pay. That sounds fair right?
  • The quality of education will eventually suffer. With an increased size of students and classes, eventually the lecturer who’s educating the students will surely become dis-heartened to teach. Now that’s not the case for everyone but without proper funding from student fees the class begins to suffer. You get a vast majority of people studying one subject but they can’t connect to the students who’re having a hard time with it. They’re so focused on teaching the others, the people who need help will get over-looked.

There we go! 3 for each. I could have gone into depth substantially more however it would have been like an essay, also there would be a lot of ‘what ifs’ rather than actual facts. It wasn’t fair. I’m not going to say my stand point on this however I would love to get your views! Drop a comment below!


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Why I Love Poetry!

I’ve always liked poetry; it started around the age of 13/14 when I stumbled upon the great works of William Shakespeare. Ever since that I’ve been hooked, however I’ve always fell away from revealing it to anyone, there’s this certain stigma within our youthful culture that poems, poetry and poets are ‘odd’ it’s almost unacceptable in our culture.

Poetry gives everyone and anyone the chance to express themselves. I’m still an amateur however there’s something fun and almost addicting to it, you have the chance to craft and sculpt words however you want. Poetry can empower people, it can motivate them, help them through tough times but most of all it gives you the chance to relate to someone and express yourself.

It doesn’t have to be complex either, it can be simple. I always thought you needed the longest of words and the most intelligent vocab, boy was I wrong! Some people express themselves through a diary, through talking to friends but for me its blogging and poetry. I’m not afraid to say that anymore, boy does it feel good!

A short and sweet one today! I’ve posted a new poem as well, tell me what you think! – http://routinedreamer.com/2014/11/19/dreams/

Also don’t forget to send in your poetry or blog posts, I will be able to promote them on my blog! Send them to my email – routinedreamer@gmail.com here’s my blog post about it, http://routinedreamer.com/2014/11/17/blog-and-poem-submissions-rules-all-that-jazz/ it’s much easier to read through that than for me to explain it all again!

Enjoy your day folks!

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Tumblr? Porn?

I mentioned this rather briefly in yesterday’s post but I didn’t bother to touch on it too much. I just can’t grasp Tumblr. It just feels so messy; there’s a multitude of posts everywhere, gifs that just appear on my ‘feed’ and then, to top it all off I really can’t get my head around the navigation of the site.

One thing that I really disagree with though is the vast amount of pornography on there. I just can’t believe it. I have nothing wrong with pornography or the people who view it; it’s now part of our lives and is so accessible throughout the internet however I was very shocked when I saw it on there. It’s such a worldwide site for people of all ages and to have pornography on there seems so inappropriate.

It makes me wonder about a bigger question. Is pornography too accessible on the internet?

This shouldn’t be too explicit but be warned there is talk of sex and pornography here, if you’re easily offended please refrain from reading. Although I’m going to try make it as less sexual as possible but don’t feel embarrassed, we’re all humans, sex happens.

Like I said previously, there’s nothing wrong with viewing pornography (my personal opinion) however when sites aren’t monitored and it becomes accessible to minors and even young children it can and will slowly effect their teenage to adult lives. You could say I’ve experienced it first-hand.

I’m not going to sit here and lie to you all; I’ve watched porn in the past. I’ve been viewing it since my early teenage years (roughly 13 currently 19 now) and I’m not going to go into much detail about it, I don’t want to ruin your mornings however it has affected me in a few minor ways.

I guess the first one is the way we perceive sex and sex as a whole. In porn it’s really a huge ‘lie’ as most females and males are just acting. But viewing pornography changes the way we perceive sexual activity and you often think it’s going to be this fairy-tale of sexual desire and fantasy; it’s more often than not, completely different. It’s far less romantic at times and can be rather embarrassing for both parts however porn makes it completely different. It alters your views and ideas on sex, porn is for fantasy but we often let it drift into our personal lives and sex can become a much more enjoyable thing however it can be rather uncomfortable for some. It goes both ways but trying to live out a porn fantasy with someone who doesn’t can and will take its toll on a relationship. It’s all about control of your desires.

The second is the sexualisation of females. I hate to confess this and I’m almost sickened that I used to actually do it, please forgive me. I was still going through that kid to teenage phase at the time, obviously viewing pornography but it changed the way I saw females at that age. This actually makes me feel bad writing this, but whenever I was out with friends I could see a female and I would look at her in a sexual way rather than a human being. Don’t worry it was more often than not older females but it was still wrong, how was I to know? I think porn helped with that change of perception, if I didn’t see sex as often as I did would I have viewed those females in a sexual way? You could say yes or you could say no either way we won’t know. It’s such a vulnerable age as your mind and body is changing, it damaged my views in a way but I’ve grown up, I’ve matured and no longer view females in this way and I haven’t in a very long time.

The question is though, what happens when males or females don’t stop seeing the opposite sex in a sexual way? Some people say it can lead to rape, some say it can lead to an addiction. I’m not going to touch on those as they need to be researched in depth but I would love to hear your thoughts on those statements. I didn’t make those statements either, it’s been widely speculated and debated but like I said, I really don’t wish to offend anyone with this so if it does, please drop a comment or an email I will be happy to take certain parts out or edit it.

The third and final part I wish to touch upon is the violence within porn. Some pornography is absolutely disgusting; the way some females allow themselves to be treated is beyond my belief. There’s videos of women being slapped, spat on and it’s just vile. I don’t understand as to why some people would enjoy viewing this or why some women would actually do this for money, to let themselves be degraded as a human for some cash but you know what? Each to their own. I just couldn’t do that as a man, I couldn’t treat a female that way, and it’s just way too far out of my comfort boundaries. But if you were a young child viewing this multiple times a week, it’s surely going to damage your perception on sex and will surely halter your sexual performances. I can’t say it will for definite but surely it needs to be looked at.

The fact pornography is widely accessible to young and vulnerable children needs to be looked at. It’s a problem that can affect many young men and women, I was lucky enough to have matured and change my views on sex and porn, they are two separate things but when I was younger I thought they meshed into one. I was able to access these sites at the age of 13, with tech advancing and more children having smartphones and access to the internet, who knows what they will stumble upon?

This wasn’t supposed to go this way, I was writing a blog post about Tumblr however when I mentioned the point on porn something just clicked, it’s odd but it’s definitely worth a discussion, so please join in!

Also don’t forget to send in your poetry or blog posts, I will be able to promote them on my blog! Send them to my email – routinedreamer@gmail.com here’s my blog post about it, http://routinedreamer.com/2014/11/17/blog-and-poem-submissions-rules-all-that-jazz/ it’s much easier to read through this than for me to explain it again!

What are your thoughts on this by the way? I would love to know!

Enjoy your day!

Blog and Poem Submissions – Rules & All That Jazz!

Today’s the day ladies and gentleman. It’s this very Monday where I’ve put my mental state on the line and I start to work my socks off! I’m working like I’ve never worked before. Okay, maybe I’m over exaggerating, just a tad.

You can now officially start sending in your poems and blog post submissions (will explain further down*) as the first set will go out on Saturday the 22nd and Sunday the 23rd. If I get any submissions that is! I will be editing my homepage as well so it’s going to be far more user-friendly. I know at the moment it’s just a mess, by Saturday I will have everything categorised for you!

*You can send in your blog posts if you wish if it’s good enough I will put them up. It’s just another form of sharing your stuff, I do explain further down about all credit going to you! Please don’t feel like I’m going to steal your stuff. My blog posts and poetry will be separate to yours! It’s almost going to be a space for you guys really! It’s best to just read the rules down below as it explains everything!

I’m still not sure on how many posts I will put up from your submissions! Like I said it’s going to be like a sub-blog for you guys. It sounds odd here but you’ll see on Saturday!

So when will it officially start? As of now! You can send in your stuff this very minute but please read the rules below!

Rules!

  • You can send in your poems and blog posts to my email – routinedreamer@gmail.com
  • Please do not overload my email, just send one email for the week. It helps the work load!
  • Please don’t email me on Saturday or Sunday! Cut off point is on Friday!
  • In the email you can include up to 5 poems and 3 blog posts. Please send it all as one. Hopefully that makes some sense. Example; Just lay out at the top of your email ‘Poems’ and then underneath send the ones you want. After that if you want to add a blog post or posts just leave some space and then put the heading ‘Blog Post’ and then put them underneath. I’m not fussed which way it goes round but please, PLEASE don’t send 5 separate emails with poems and 3 more emails with blog posts. It clogs up my Gmail folks! I hope that’s not too nasty!
  • You don’t have to be based from WordPress! If you’re on another blogging platform or you want to submit some work anonymously I don’t mind! Say you’re from Blog-spot or Tumblr and you’ve got some work posted there, that’s totally fine. It just gives everyone the chance to share their work on another site and gives us all the chance to connect more!
  • I don’t mind your post including swear-words just as long as it’s general ones, not vulgar words.
  • Obviously no racism or anything of the sort.

I can’t think of anything else to add, if I do I will update you guys!

Extra Info!

  • This is my first time doing anything like this; please stick with me for the first week!
  • The first post, if I get enough submissions will be on Saturday the 22nd and Sunday the 23rd.
  • All credit goes to you.I’m not going to steal your stuff guys! I just want to create a blog where on one side I can post my things, thoughts and poetry but on the other I can create a platform where I can share your stuff! It’s giving you the chance to reach out to more people, get more feedback and more importantly ‘network’ with others.
  • I will get back to all of you. That’s a promise I’m making to each and every one of you reading this, you guys and girls are honestly fantastic. So if one week it’s not included, I will email you as to why but I might post it the week after!
  • I like controversy! Stuff that gets people talking, the more of that then the better!
  • If it spams your feed or clogs your stuff up please email me, I will try to work around it.

There we have it, you guys are all set! I just want to add I will share your stuff on WordPress but if you give me your permission via email I can also share it on my other sites such as G+ and Tumblr although I’m still figuring out how Tumblr actually works!

For the first Sat and Sunday it will probably be me selecting 5 poems from all your submissions and 5 blog posts. We’ll see how it goes I guess! I’m excited though, it’s something new and challenging, just what I needed!

Any questions drop a comment, or an email I don’t mind! It’s some fun for us all where we can connect and network with each other! Any problems as well email or comment!

routinedreamer@gmail.com

Much love to all of you! Enjoy your day!

:)

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The Exciting News!

I’m going to keep this one short and sweet for now, I didn’t write this yesterday as I previously stated I would in last night’s post. I’m lazy like that! Essentially I’ve noticed that my poetry and spoken word posts have been getting frequent hits, I’ve noticed my I’m fine post (http://routinedreamer.com/2014/10/13/im-fine-2/) has actually surpassed my top blog posts! It’s quite surprising, but me being the rather blind fool that I am, I haven’t used the opportunity that it’s created and just let it fizzle out.

With my poem I posted yesterday I got a huge influx of new readers and a fair few new followers. I made the decision yesterday to start doing daily posts of poetry as well as my daily blog posts! Now I know as of late they’ve not been coming in daily but they will be, starting from next week! I just need to settle into this new job for the rest of this week and then I’m good to go. It’s going to be a mammoth of a task with 9-5’s and 12-8’s but it’s going to pay off.

How does this news benefit you? You have the opportunity to be featured on my blog! Woo, right?

I won’t just be posting my stuff; I’m giving others the chance to feature their poems on my blog! Exciting right, all free of course! The only rule is I will post them on Saturdays and Sundays, the days which I never post really. Now to tell you the truth my follower count isn’t into the thousands however I do have a good solid number of 205 at the moment, it’s taken me ages to get there and I haven’t fell out of love with it as of yet.

I guess it just gives everyone the chance to get their poetry featured elsewhere and gives you guys and girls the chance to get it read by some of my followers, a huge benefit; am I right? I’m not going to lie; it will benefit me as well as I will have posts for the weekends and get a few new followers hopefully myself.

We all win!

I will write a post with rules and guidelines but for now just embrace it in and if you can, please do share! I wrote this after my 9-5 today, I’m shattered. Please do forgive me if there are any mistakes with grammar or spelling!

Enjoy your day, well evening now I guess!

:)

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Some Spoken Word! & Exciting News! Well…

I’ve just finished my first proper 9-5 in a what I shall call a hectic few months, and boy oh boy does it feel great! I haven’t had time to write a ‘proper’ post for tonights blog however I’ve got some spoken word I wrote a few days ago that I wish to share. It’s been a bit up and down I’m losing one friend and I can tell another one’s going as well. It’s a bit of a nightmare to be honest, I’ll get over it though I guess! I’m back on 9-5 tomorrow as well so I best get writing tonight so I’ve got something for you guys tomorrow! Enjoy and I’ve got some big plans coming for next week! All shall be explained in tomorrows post, it’s something that will benefit us ‘bloggers’ I can’t give to much away as of now but I shall write it all up tonight and post it tomorrow! Like I said enjoy and if there’s any comments you have, good or bad I don’t mind! It’s all love! Can you tell I’m in a much happier mood now? I’ve finally found a job I enjoy! Right enough rambling, here we are;

It’s funny, I remember the days that we walked the same path and we crossed the same roads,

But today I’m lost, crossed, intertwined as each of our souls,

Have departed and dispersed and the feelings of friendships are immersed,

Within the depths of previous thoughts and feelings we once un-earthered.

Do you remember the days where we could conversate for hours upon end?

But when I saw you today it was as if we were strangers again.

I know you have work to get done and really, so do I

But we’ve lost our connection and now I wonder why?

I’m feeling like there’s a sense of hostility building inside this serenity,

The friendship and bonds we had and have is now the enemy,

My thoughts and my previous tendencies,

Are rendezvousing with a lost entity,

But this friendship is sick and it doesn’t seem as if there’s a remedy.

I meet up with you even though a few years have gone past,

We still chat via text but it just doesn’t last,

See we chat every other week but it just hasn’t got that same buzz,

Remember we used to chat everyday, but it’s gone now, I’m lost and feeling stuck.

Words and verbs, metaphors that I used to use,

Are now not spoken as they’re overly used.

We say the same things but format our vocabulary,

This feeling sucks and I’m losing my sanity.

See we used to have the strongest of bonds that didn’t match anything else,

You might of saw it differently but really that’s how I felt.

I guess the reason we become so distant is because we began to grow up,

That was the fact we parted and the buzz fell into the rough.

You gained new friends and I’m not mad at that,

I’m just glad you’re enjoying life and I can deal with that.

But is it wrong I want my friend back, even though we’ve both changed?

Is it strange that things deep down just aren’t feeling the same?

It’s funny as we walk the same paths where we once laughed,

But all we do now is smile and walk graciously past.

The connection and tether of friendship just broke off and it’s blowing into the wind,

Almost as if that bonds been trashed and it’s thrown in the bin.

As I sit here and the rain stumbles upon my glass frames,

I’m imagining a life without hearing your name.

Is it odd that I speak of you so high and mighty?

Is it odd as friends I want to hold and hug you and feel so tightly?

I’m never going to stop loving you as we once were,

But the fact of the matter is it’s not as it once were.

You’ve got a boyfriend and you’re acting different trying to think that I want to get physical,

Truth is I’m just respecting you, trying re-kindling our friendship why you acting all cynical.

Don’t flirt with me and expect me not to do it back,

I wanted to chill for the day you were the one who introduced that.

I love you for who you are, deep down as a friend,

But if it’s going to be this way I think it might have to put it to an end.

You see me as someone who’s trying to flirt and wants to be something else,

Truth is I’m not, I’m always a friend if all else fails.

I’m always your friend don’t ever forget that,

I’m sorry for the way I acted; I hope you can respect that.

I just want to re-kindle those feelings we once had,

But if you want to call it a day I won’t get mad.

What you think guys? I wrote this a while ago and it relates to the post from yesterday but to tell you the truth it hits home even more, as I stated earlier I’m starting to lose another friend. Our bond has just gone it seems and it’s almost as if we’re strangers now, but I’m not going to kick up a huge fuss, that’s life. The post yesterday was just me venting it all out, I’m in a much happier mood!

Any thoughts please comment!

Enjoy your day! *ps I write this on my mobile so if there’s any spelling or grammatical errors please point them out!

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When Friends Start Turning Into Strangers.

It’s rather tough when a friend or a close friend starts turning into a stranger. It’s as if all the feelings you once un-earthed with each other start to disperse, the jokes you used to tell become an un-funny part of your life and it feels awkward when you’re around them. It’s tough, it’s not like you’re losing them it’s as if you’re losing someone who you can count on, someone you can explain specific feelings to and someone who you seek out for guidance. In a sense you’re losing a companion.

I’m quite lucky because I have a fantastic set of friends, it’s a small group of friends but they’re truly genuine people. The problem I’m facing though, I feel as if I’m losing one of them and it’s quite an emotional roller coaster. I’ve let other people interfere with how I interact with them and it’s taking its toll on the friendship. I remember the times when we used to talk and text for hours, and days in fact but as time went on it’s as if all those memories and the bond we created has begun to snap.

I figure I should reveal it’s a girl by the way, I think it’s because she’s a female we have a much different relationship than my male friends. Sure we can joke in the same way but it just feels different.

I’m happy though, they’re getting on with their life and I feel as if they’re in a happy place but I just don’t want it to feel as if we’re strangers anymore. It’s as if we went from being rather close to the point where we hardly know each other. Maybe I’m just being silly but it certainly feels a lot different. I’ve never experienced it before either, sure at times I will admit I’ve been a bit off with them but who hasn’t with a friend?

I think we’ve been at such a vast distance for a long time we haven’t got the chance to hang out as much. It’s definitely not an excuse but I don’t know, it just feels as if that plays a huge factor and I’m not blaming them for that either I guess that’s just how it goes sometimes but I just would like that same ‘vibe’ to be back, the same vibe it once had.

It’s crazy, I was just talking to them the other night and I compared it to the level of conversation we had when we first met, it’s such a substantial difference; we tend to repeat ourselves but word it in such a different way, it’s got to the point where we talk about the same stuff over and over again and I’ve often wondered is it worth it? Is it worth me trying to push through so we can connect again? Or is it just going to stay like this forever?

I’m sorry if this has dampened your mood but I just felt this was the best way to vent my feelings. Sure I have other friends who I could have confided in but I just can’t express myself in such a vast way with them, I don’t want them to feel obliged to help either. But as of late I’ve just seemed to have been giving and giving to everyone and being nice and making sure everyone else feels good to the point where I don’t have that one person who I can vent to.

Maybe it’s not best airing my personal problems out there like this but I just wanted to get this off my chest. I’m a nice guy, that’s not me being cocky or arrogant either, I know I’m a nice guy. I’ve helped numerous people with countless problems over and over but when I have a problem they seem to run away or have other things to do. It gets pent up inside where it comes to the point where you either snap or just breakdown.

I haven’t broke down as such but I’ve just decided to say screw it and let these feelings go free and to tell you the truth it already feels a million times better. If I had to give advice to anyone going through anything similar I would try to tell them to express their feelings to someone or even put it in a diary. It’s almost as if this weight has been lifted from my shoulders, cliché I know but that’s how it genuinely feels. After being nice to everyone and helping sort out their problems it’s nice to tell someone how you’re feeling for once, it’s nice to just let loose.

I met up with another old friend on Friday, we had a day out. The problem was I felt so mentally drained and shattered from all the bullshit and negativity it definitely effected the day. I felt so bad afterwards and in a way still do. They wanted to spend their time with me but I seemed to be in such an anti-social mood so they mustn’t have enjoyed it but I couldn’t help it. I mean I did try at one point but I just felt like crap, I want to make it up to them and I have apologised via text but it just doesn’t seem right, I’m not going to include their name but they know who they are. On behalf of the world to see, I do apologise but you’ve got to understand you can’t be happy 24/7 and the one day where my feelings began to break through was the day we met up, so I’m sorry.

You could counter all of this with telling me to push though it or even tell me there are people out there feeling much worse and that I need to get over myself and guess what? I completely agree, it’s a minor problem to be complaining about but it’s something I needed to get off my chest, hopefully this will help me move on with a decision to wait it out or just let it go. You can only take so much as a person and the fact people moan about you moaning just doesn’t help the situation. You need someone or something to vent to every now and then.

Sorry to put a downer to your day, it’s a Monday I know you want something to cheer you up but you just need to vent sometimes and today was that time!

Enjoy your day folks!

:)

Words That Annoy Me! Example, “Bae”

From Internet memes to vine compilations words such as ‘bae’ and ‘yeet’ (don’t worry I’ll explain later) have worked their way into our daily lives through the power of the ever un-controlling social media. I’m not sure if Vine and Twitter are to thank for this or just some idiots coming up with words in their back garden in the vain attempts to make their video or tweets go viral but you know what? It’s the slang of our generation.

Words come and go but then there are some words that annoy you to the point where you need to blog about it, this is that blog ladies and gentleman. Here are my top 5, well 6 annoying words from Vine and Twitter.

  1. Bae- The cool new way to say babe. Even though I never thought the word babe was cool in the first place, bae just makes it so much worse, am I a bad person for this? No. Well I hope I’m not. If you let the word ‘bae’ slip into your daily vocab please give yourself a punishment, it just sounds so terrible and hopefully it’s not just me who thinks this but it’s a rather cringe-worthy word!
  2. #Squad- Friends, a group or gathering of people. An everyday word turned into slang for my youth of today. I’m not saying you folks reading this are old but I would be surprised if a 30 year old reads this and actually uses the word squad. It’s mainly used on Twitter and Instagram. Common examples include someone taking a photo with a group of friends and then using the hash tag squad hoping for the whole world to witness there finesse at being beautiful. #Squad yo.
  3. Turned up- No someone’s not turned up; they’re not a dial you can switch up and down people. If you’re ever turned up or had someone say you’re turned up they’re deluded. It’s the new way of saying you’re being wild I guess. If you’re at a party, drunk and having a good time apparently you’re turned up. Makes sense but it’s just horrendous!
  4. Friend zone- Now this one really pisses me off to the maximum. If you’re friends with the opposite sex and let me repeat, just friends; people automatically assume you’re doomed to ever have a relationship with that person, but you know what? What if I never wanted a relationship in the first place? What if I’m happy with just being friends? Never thought about that did you? Honestly folks, don’t look at everything in a sexual or relationship type way! Two people can be friends without wanting to have sex all the time! I’m not in a zone, we’re friends!
  5. Yeet- This word was made famous by a classic vine clip, it features a little kid on a race track dancing in one of the most peculiar ways possible, take a look at the vid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDXgTGUxo8g odd right? Well essentially this went viral and everyone began doing crazy stuff such as smacking food from someone’s hand, pretending to slam dunk over someone’s head and tripping people over. All were videoed and all had the phrase ‘yeet’ shouted somewhere along the lines thus creating this phenomena called ‘yeet’ such an odd term.
  6. Thot- I was going to stick with 5 but right before I posted this I found a gem. A rather nasty word but best described via Urban Dictionary:

A Thot is a hoe. Plural: Thotties

Marquan: Yo that’s my main girl
Deshaun: She yo main girl but she my main thot.

There we have it, a rather small and quirky post from me today but hopefully it’s kept you entertained for a few minutes!

What are some of your annoying words?

Enjoy your day!

:)

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Street Harassment…

I just want to state before I get into this whole crazy mess of a blog post, if my words or opinions anger or annoy you in any way, I’m sorry. It’s my opinion and mine only, I’ve stated my views on this video and the whole ‘vibe’ surrounding it and a few people have been angered by it, to the point where there tone of voice was rather aggressive. It’s funny, we all think we’re a civilized and mature generation yet when someone gets angry because you have a specific opinion on a controversial topic it makes you think otherwise. Before I get into my thoughts and feelings I shall link the video, it’s only a few minutes but it has caused quite the viral stir.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A

Watched it, good? I’m pretty sure it’s stirred your emotions as well.

It’s a mess, I’m unsure as to where to start this one in all honesty so I’m going to just talk about the facts and state my opinions and why I feel that way, I hope that’s cool with you guys? And if you disagree with my thoughts and ludicrous opinions please feel free to comment! I won’t hate you, don’t worry!

So after watching this video I had mixed-emotions. Everyone knows YouTube, the comment section is a war of verbal abuse and a torrent of hatred, some of the stuff on there is so vulgar it’s disheartening to read. Comments such as;

  • “People are straight up retards for such a ridiculous video even to exist.”
  • “You sound gay.” – This even got 6 likes people, I mean seriously sort your shit out.
  • “Compliments? This bitch can’t take fucking compliments?” So disgusting. If you’re going to make a comment on such a controversial topic, do it in a professional way without the offensive language. Just think about that comment for a moment, this persons called the woman in the video a ‘bitch’ just because she has a certain opinion on something. It’s wrong on so many levels.

So yeah, this was just on the first few comments I browsed through, most people are generally commenting “oh it’s just compliments” or “she’s brought it on herself because of the clothes she wears.” Now these are the two main areas of debate I wish to get into. I’m going to chuck in my two cents on the general remarks as well such as the “damns” and the people who stare and whistle. Ready? Let’s discuss!

  • “Oh it’s just compliments.” In all honesty this was my first opinion when I saw the video, I watched it and then re-watched it and some of the stuff people are saying to her can be passed as compliments. If I was to go up to a girl and say “hello, you’re pretty” is that such a crime? I don’t think it is. BUT for some females or males might I add they may not want some random stranger coming up to them and trying to spark up a conversation, it may place them in an uncomfortable state where they end up feeling harassed because of it. And I don’t blame them. It all comes down to the person at the end of the day, but it shouldn’t be publicized as harassment just because you see a girl who you find attractive and try talk to her. That’s how I’ve met friends in the past, that’s how friends started relationships and that’s how people ended up getting married. All because someone, in this case the male went up to the female and simply complimented her. The best example of this is at 00:38 seconds into the clip. I believe it’s the guy sitting down and he simply asks “how are you this morning?” It’s just a simple question I understand there’s no compliment but there’s no malicious tone to his voice, like I said some women may respond and react to the question others may not. It comes down to the person. But it shouldn’t be classed as harassment, there’s no real harassing in that statement. Can’t one human ask another human how they’re doing? Is it so wrong to want to interact within our cultures and cities?
  • The cat calling. Why’s this still around? Media and films really helped changed societies ideas on cat calling and whistling, but put yourselves in the females shoes. If a man, who’s slumped against a wall, staring right at your body ends up whistling it’s definitely going to make you feel uncomfortable, but like I said some girls may enjoy it. But for the most part, in my eyes it’s just rude to do that to someone and it makes you look sleazy.
  • “Damn girl.”I mean c’mon guys, is that the best you can do? That’s not a compliment in anyway, it’s in my eyes disgusting. If you’re approaching a girl who you feel is attractive and you feel as if they’re someone you want to get to know, why are you saying “damn girl?” you should be approaching as a gentleman. You shouldn’t be shouting at them or slanted over acting “tough” or what’s perceived as tough in our modern day society. I can see why this comes off as harassment, the way they’ve presented themselves and the way they’ve gone about talking to someone is so rude. It’s touchy but I hope you can see where I’m coming from.
  • “She’s brought it on herself because of the clothes she wears.” I hope you’re kidding, right? I’m sorry it’s not your body; it’s down to her what she decides to wear. If she’s comfortable and wants to wear an item of clothing that shows off her body, what gives you the right to say she brought it on herself? It’s all because some males think it’s acceptable to whistle and stare at her in an oddly manner when in reality it’s not. A minor glance should be fine, she’s an attractive woman I’m allowed to look the same as she’s allowed to look at me and if I think she’s attractive who then says it’s un-acceptable to not talk to her? She could end up becoming a close friend or even a girlfriend if she wants to communicate back to me. Just because she’s wearing clothes that show off her curves and body, why in the world would you call her ‘a stuck up slut’ all because she doesn’t want to talk to someone?
  • Open the clip back up and go to 00:50 seconds. Now this is the scariest thing that I think could happen to a female or even male, I felt slightly worried when watching it. The clip shows an annotation that the guy follows her around for 5 minutes. You obviously have your own views on this but seriously, it’s creepy. It’s going to scare and shake you up, the fact it was for 5 minutes is even worse. In a way I can see it as a form of harassment, the guys not leaving her alone! He’s not taking the hint she doesn’t want to talk, just leave. You’re not respecting her wishes and in turn essentially harassing her by following her every move.
  • “Because I’m ugly” – 01:24. Sort that out, from the video she doesn’t say the guy is ugly. It’s something that’s totally ludicrous to say, I’m unsure as to why the guy believed she didn’t want to talk to him but from my eyes it’s because he thinks she’s thinking he’s ‘ugly’ or it could be just because she doesn’t want to talk to you, she doesn’t have to explain as to why. Maybe she just doesn’t want to talk or maybe she’s in a hurry; don’t ask questions like that, ever. Yeah that whole he thinks, she thinks got me confused as well, apologies.
  • “God bless you mami” – 00:27.It’s not just what the guy said, it’s the way he said it and the way he’s staring the female down as if she’s an object. Sounds a tad out there I know but hear me out. If you look at the way the young gentleman eyes up and down her body, not even in a subtle way it’s a full on stare, it’s rather rude. I can’t speak for the female in question or females in general however if I were in the position as a male and a female doing that; I personally wouldn’t mind it having said that, that’s just me. Some women are going to feel uncomfortable and some women are going to enjoy it, it’s personal taste but in terms of harassment it depends on the person. For the female yes, it’s rude to her and she doesn’t like it but I guess from the males perspective it’s a little different. In his eyes I guess it’s his way of showing you a compliment even if it’s not gentleman like, if you see what I mean. He feels as if he’s not harassing you. He feels as if he’s paying you a compliment because he may not know any other way to do so. Not speaking for the gentleman or knocking his attempts but in my eyes from the way I’ve learned it’s not respectful but he may not know that. A bit of an excuse you could say but it’s a tough one to analyse. Sure you can call it harassment but in his eyes it’s a compliment. Two complete different spectrums meeting as one.

You know, I respect this video. It’s raised some issues within the way we present ourselves in our modern day society. It shows to some males, females are not objects you can shout at them or whistle because ‘that’s the thing to do.’ But it’s misrepresenting the term ‘harassment.’

The definition for harassment is: aggressive pressure or intimidation.

Now the guy walking with the female for 5 minutes, that’s borderline in my eyes. Very scary for anyone male or female and is in my personal eyes a form of harassment. However, asking someone if they’re having a nice day or even complimenting someone to tell them they’re beautiful is in no way aggressive at all. I would love for someone to tell me I’m beautiful, it gives people a lift of spirits but having said that some women or some males may feel otherwise. They may feel uncomfortable or even worried if someone strange and new said that to them. And it’s not their fault. It’s just how they feel.

I think the term harassment was the wrong choice, I’m unsure as to what you could call it but there isn’t much in terms of harassment. I’ve said it to friends and family and I will say it again, in my personal opinion cat calling, vulgarly staring at a female as if they’re an object and shouting rather aggressive compliments is not a compliment it’s rude and makes someone feel uncomfortable. Saying to someone they’re pretty or telling them to have a nice day is not. It’s common manners and it’s sociable, if you like it you can choose whether to talk back but if you don’t you can walk on, nothing wrong with how you feel it’s your choice. It’s what happens afterwards that needs to change. You can’t be mean or nasty to someone just because they choose not to talk to you, it’s their choice not yours!

I guess no one’s really explained their views and opinions on the subject to me; they’ve just made comments without backing it up. I would love to hear what others think, I’m open to changing my opinion if someone can persuade me otherwise but because I haven’t had an intellectual talk on it as of yet I just can present how I feel as of now. But you can make a point that might sway my thoughts on this subject, just drop a comment or an email (routinedreamer@gmail.com) don’t be afraid I will not be nasty to you, or un-friendly it’s all just a debate where we as humans can learn from one another!

Enjoy your day!

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Movie Mistakes! & Movie Facts!

Be-warned this blog post may actually ruin your favourite movies!…

Only kidding folks, I’m not that mean! I love films, I’m un-sure as to who doesn’t but there’s these great little niggles that come with these high end movies and to tell you the truth it’s not anything bad it’s just little ‘mistakes’ in the continuity within the film. To give an example (my list later on will include pictures don’t worry) little things such as cups changing colour or actors hitting their heads. The funny thing is they’re kept in and produced within the final cut and this is where the reviewers come out of their lurking shadows and criticize the films until the cows come home.

Really though most reviewers don’t but you get the vibe I’m trying to create! Movie mistakes aren’t bad unless it effects the story if it’s just a cup colour or a camera showing up it’s usually fine but they’re interesting to see when it’s such a huge production!

Before I get into this all credit is due to http://www.moviemistakes.com/ I just added my witty descriptions and no I don’t work with them or have been approached by them it’s such an interesting site! The time and dedication put into finding these mistakes and keeping geeks like me interested is greatly appreciated! All picture credits go to them!

The Shawshank Redemption – Honestly such a fantastic film, if you haven’t seen it I greatly recommend it. Quick overview from IMDB; (I’m a cheat, don’t hate) two imprisoned men bond over a number of years, finding solace and eventual redemption through acts of common decency. Did I forget to mention Morgan Freeman’s one of the main characters, that fact alone should swing it for you! Anyway the movie goof, I nearly forgot about it! This one’s a minor mistake, funny but minor. It’s from the scene where the wardens come through and start tossing cells, in the scene it shows all of Andy’s chess pieces upon the window being knocked over one by one. After a little while one of the pieces has been placed upright again even though no one touched them! Pretty nifty to be able to spot right?

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Extra cool facts – IMDB gets credit on this one! I should add the facts are mainly to do with dates, the film was based in 1947.

  • When Tommy goes out into the yard to talk to Warden Norton, Warden Norton offers him a cigarette. The pack of Marlboros that he offers him has Marlboro Miles on them, which weren’t around until the 1990s.
  • When they are on the roof during the tar job, in either 1949 or 1950, Andy tells Hadley that the IRS allows a gift to a spouse tax free. At that time, the IRS was known as the Bureau of Internal Revenue. It did not become known as the IRS until the 1950s.
  • The full-size photo poster of Rita Hayworth that Red procures for Andy in 1949 comes from a series of celebrity posters that went on sale in the early 1960s.
  • The stamp used by the parole officers in 1947 prints in the Helvetica font, which was not invented until 1957.

Harry Potter and the Philosophers Stone – Fantastic movie as well, I’m pretty sure I lived on Harry Potter VHS’s when I was younger. I probably should have read the books as well I feel I’m missing out on a huge part of history there but I watched the films, which counts for something surely! My nickname in school was ‘Dobby’ and no it was not because I looked like an aged old elf it was because of my tiny stature in size and it was very similar to my second name. Is it wrong my closest friends still use that nickname rather than my ‘real’ name? They never call me Jake, ever. It’s got to the point if they do slip it out it’s like ‘who’s that?’ The mistake! Well in one scene where they’re all eating together it’s clear to see that Harry is sat next to Ron but when the camera angle changes he is ‘magically’ next to Hermoine on the other side of the table. Isn’t this just to the perfect time to insert a witty joke about magic and the world of Harry Potter? Pretty cool spot though.

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Extra cool facts – The Internet gets credit on this one! General Harry Potter facts might I add.

  • There are roughly 700 fouls in Quidditch.
  • The actress who played Moaning Myrtle was 37 years old at the time “Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets” was filmed.
  • Dementors, the deadly phantoms that guard Azkaban Prison, represent depression and were based on Rowling’s struggle with the disease.
  • The least successful Harry Potter film, “Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban,” made $90 million more than the most successful Twilight movie.

Pulp Fiction – Surely one of the greatest films ever made? Definitely in my top 5. If I’m being brutally honest it’s quite hard to describe the actual film because it feels like there’s so much going on! It’s got action, comedy, romance and more comedy; dark comedy though. Best way to describe it is…Yeah, I’m going to IMDB. The lives of two mob hit men, a boxer, a gangster’s wife, and a pair of diner bandits intertwine in four tales of violence and redemption. There we are that’s that sorted! Anyway, movie goof; this is a mistake that’s quite hard to notice but there’s a scene in the film where bullets are being fired or should I say going to be fired, well in the movie Quentin Tarantino (amazing I should add) showed off the bullet holes in the wall before any gun was fired. Doesn’t discredit the movie in any way, just an awesome goof!

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Extra cool facts – The Internet once again! http://www.shortlist.com/entertainment/films/50-things-you-(probably)-didnt-know-about-pulp-fiction

  • At the end of Pulp Fiction , Jules says he wants to become a “drifter.” In Kill Bill Volume 2, Samuel L. Jackson appears as a piano-playing drifter, called Rufus.
  • John Travolta spoke to a recovering heroin addict during his research for Vincent Vega. The addict, a friend of Quentin Tarantino, suggested Travolta get drunk on tequila and lie in a hot pool, as this would be the closest representation of heroin’s effects without actually it. Travolta tried this method with his wife in their hotel hot tub, lining up tequila shots along the bath.
  • The shot of Vincent plunging the syringe of adrenaline into Mia’s chest was filmed by having John Travolta pull the needle out, then reversing the footage.
  • Marsellus and Mia Wallace never speak to each other on-screen, despite being husband and wife.

There we have it, just take a look at the site – http://www.moviemistakes.com/ there’s so much more!

I just want to add the only parts I really did was the intro, the photos and facts were from other sites. The other sites I used were;

There were others as well for a few facts but I’ve lost them in my internet history, if they’re yours drop me an email so I can give credit! Just a short and easy one for today. 

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10 Things We Should Be Taught At School!

Is it wrong that I don’t miss school? I mean sure there were some nice moments and a few memories throughout the years but in reality school only taught me the basics to life. I can’t say I learned all that much but that may be saying something about me! But in all seriousness I had fantastic teachers but I just didn’t retain anything, hopefully that makes some kind on sense! Sure it was the easiest time of my life and I think will be the easiest time of my life until the day I die but I don’t feel I’ve benefited all that much. I’m 19 now so it’s probably not been put in perspective for me, I may look back at 50 and have a total different opinion but for now I just don’t get it. School gives you routine, it gives you an education, a basic education but an education none the less. It can benefit a huge variety of people but for me, it just didn’t.

I’ve worked ever since I left at 16 and there hasn’t been a day where I’ve used what I’ve learned in Science about chemical bonds to benefit me, there hasn’t been a day where I’ve used my knowledge in art to benefit me, you see where I’m going don’t you. Sure 10, 20 or even 30 years down the line it may come into play but in all honesty I just don’t see it. I don’t have a huge problem with education at the moment but I think certain life skills that I’ve picked up along the way really need to be introduced.

I’ve created a list of 10 things that I wish I could have learned whilst at school, hopefully you agree if not please drop a comment as to why! Feel free to add your own as well! Enjoy!

(I apologise on the lack of structured English for this one! I was in a rush, no excuse but I feel I should definitely mention it.)

  1. Learning CPR. This one’s top of the top for me, it’s a skill we should all be taught by law. You don’t know where you may need it, when you may need it or who you may need it for. In my personal or can I say ‘professional’ opinion even though I’m really only a professor in eating junk food, I would much rather be taught that than some topics we’re forced to learn in school. Obviously it’s not going to take up a whole term, c’mon guys I’m not that dumb! But we definitely all should be taught it whether it means missing one lesson that’s not as important as your main subjects just as long as we are all taught it in our lifetime. What are your thoughts to that?
  2. Learning how to take control of your taxes and all that other ‘nasty stuff.’ I’m pretty sure everyone else has complained about this, I’m just chucking in my two cents I guess! (woo an American idiom) I got screwed on my first job and my tax was an outstanding amount, when you’re a teenager expecting your first pay check it’s a bit of a surprise to see absolutely nothing and most of it going to tax. They don’t teach you how to sort it out, it’s down to you to learn but I mean it’s a huge shocker seeing as you’re still young. A foot in the door would definitely help introduce you into that world! In terms of the ‘nasty stuff’ as well I’m talking about information on mortgages and renting houses, all that grown up stuff! It would have been nice to get a taster into the ‘adult’ life rather than having to start from scratch.
  3. The swimming basics. Now this one’s a tad controversial, in some or even most schools within the UK I do believe it is taught, the only problem was I never learned at that period of time how to actually swim. They took us to do these training classes when we were roughly 4/5 years old but I never properly understood how to swim. I eventually did though, thank-god! The Earth’s surface is roughly 71% water so it’s definitely something we should all know, even if it’s just learning how to float. It’s better than drowning right?
  4. Cooking. I look in my fridge and man what do I see? A whole section full of ingredients, succulent foods and the tenderest of meats but you know what the problem is? I really don’t know how to cook, and when I say really; I mean really! I’m literally terrible. Obviously I’m an expert/ master at the obvious foods like Pasta, beans on toast and the ‘crappy’ stuff but you know what would be awesome? Learning how to cook up a bad ass steak or a pizza from scratch. Okay they weren’t the best of examples but you get the picture. I know what you’re saying at home as well, “why don’t you just learn it from the internet man!” and to some extent that’s true but I feel learning it at school maybe as an extra-curricular activity would benefit the subject of wanting to cook more as pupils would go if only if they want to. Rather than being forced to learn a subject they didn’t want to! Although there would obviously be problems with funding, staff, ingredients and all that jazz, you get the picture. It would be a cool idea though hopefully you’re with me on that, it beats dominos and Chinese takeaways, not that I have anything against them! I pretty much live off those!
  5. Recognising when you’re drunk. I hate people who get so wasted they can’t even stand, I’m unsure as to why you let it get to this point or your ‘friends’ let you get to this point. I’m one of these people who really doesn’t understand drinking alcohol, people often tend to use it and abuse it. Example; “I drink to numb the pain” woah that just took a turn didn’t it? I’m sorry to depress you even further on a Monday but this is a valuable point! Alcohol should be used to celebrate, it’s something we should use to relax after a long day’s work or just use it as something to treat yourself with. Even if you’re on a night out or you’re in a club, why go overboard? It just makes you look like an idiot but to go even further it ruins your night and your friend’s night. There’s times when it can be acceptable but when it gets to the point where you’re knocking things over, stumbling and hurting yourself that’s the point when someone should tell you, ‘you’re drunk you can’t have anymore.’ If you do it can lead to health issues inside your body, you can fall over and physically hurt yourself but you know what the worst part is? The pain it takes on your bank balance!
  6. Basic Geography. I hate being lost, it’s genuinely terrifying. It’s much worse if you’re lost within a dark, scary place and those loud bangs and noises creep you out. Oh wait, Halloweens over! Darn. You get my point though, when I’m walking home late at night and I hear a cat screech and scarper across the road it can be quite scary even though I know nothing will happen to me or maybe I just get scared too easily either way I know it freaks me out! Anyway; geography. Sure we’re all taught it in school but we’re taught about rocks and volcanoes and sure it’s beneficial to certain pupils but what I really want to know is how to read the time when looking up at the sun or where to go if I’m lost within a foreign country. I get there’s leaflets and stations with all this information and with the vast improvements of tech there’s more than likely no need for this but I feel it’s something we should all be able to retain inside us just for future reference if all else fails.
  7. Public speaking. I absolutely used to loathe public speaking or speaking on my own to a group of people, it’s terrifying! You feel far too out of depth and you can’t seem to slumber back within your comfort zone but you know what? Those are the moments when you really find yourself, those moments let you relish within your own confidence and in turn makes you a much better person. It makes you feel better about yourself even if at the time you’re frightened to death. There’s so much pressure put on kids and teenagers nowadays especially when it comes to things such as looks and intelligence, school time can really knock your confidence which doesn’t set you up to well for work life or social life. I think by teaching people to be more comfortable within their own body will help greatly in the future.
  8. Respectful Flirting. I’m not one to fuss if I get turned down or rejected by a female, it happens; at least you’ve given it a go right. The thing that really bugs me is when guys think they’re like walking gods and continually harass females all because they’ve turned them down. This happens in clubs, a lot. You see these dudes trying to grind on females even though they’re pushing them away and telling them to leave them alone, I guess the fact they’re intoxicated on alcohol doesn’t help but it’s certainly not an excuse. Like I was saying though if she’s rejecting you, respectfully take the hit don’t try and move around it, just move on! We should be taught to respect boundaries when we’re in college, although it will seem pointless at the time, when you’re out in a club hopefully that knowledge of respecting her wishes and leaving them alone will come into play because you’ve successfully retained the consequences as to trying to persuade them otherwise.
  9. Finding out if someone’s telling a lie. There are a few signs that someone’s telling a lie e.g. stumbling around the question or questions, a change of breathing or even standing very still. The thing is we don’t consciously put these into play we just retain the information sub-consciously and don’t think about it after the conversation is over. What we should be able to learn is if someone’s doing it mid-conversation, it would save a lot of time!
  10. Budgeting. Boy oh boy I spend my money on the most stupid and weirdest crap ever, well that’s a lie it’s mainly trainers/sneakers or food. I enjoy it greatly, my bank balance doesn’t but I do. The problem is when the time comes for me to pay bills, rent and get the weekly essentials it’s going to be a huge shock. I’m so used to this luxury of having spare money around that once I get those bills paid and only have pennies to my name it’s going to hit me hard. They should really teach you how to section out your money; it will definitely help out for most in the future!

I apologise on the lack of structured English for this one! I was in a rush, no excuse but I feel I should definitely mention it.

There we are my top 10 things I wish I learned at school! What are yours?

Enjoy your day!

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“Don’t Judge A Book By Its Cover”

We’re always told not to judge a book by its cover, yet as we grow up and get older we often lose sight of this ‘rule’ and let our minds cast an opinion on someone or something before we’ve even talked to them or learned about their situation. We cast judgement based on overall introduction and overview yet when you get down to the nitty gritty of things it can be a total shocker and something you didn’t expect may turn up. Essentially it’s a post about casting judgement on someone when you haven’t learned about them and are just judging from the perspective you see.

I’ve literally just landed a new job that I’m proud to say I want to do, a job I will enjoy waking up at 7 in the morning to go to and a job I wouldn’t have landed if I stuck it out on a previous one (will explain later.) I got the call about 10/20 minutes ago but this blog post was wrote yesterday and to tell you the truth I’m over the moon about it, the job that is!

(Please stick with the out of date references and the odd style to it, hopefully at the end it will make much more sense.)

I’m a bit annoyed, angered and let’s be honest here; stressed. It’s been an up and down month, well an up and down 2 months in fact. Most of you know the story of me leaving my previous job in retail (the one I had for 2.5 years) and leaving to work for Ralph Lauren. Like you all know that one didn’t end up too well! As I blogged previously I left as wires were crossed and I quit on the ‘first’ day (I will get more in depth to that later on.) Well I went through various job interviews and travelled stupendous miles and I finally found a new job after that. Only problem was that it was even worse than my first one, I was in training but I knew I wasn’t going to be doing it another day and I just had to quit. I just had this gut instinct and knew it wasn’t for me.

I can already tell what you’re thinking, just the same as everyone else in fact “he quits easily” or “he falls at the first hurdle” and to tell you the truth I’m tired of hearing that. They’re completely wrong, they’re judging from their perspective without hearing my side of the story. It’s funny how people judge you deep down even though they try to word it as if they aren’t, for example; “oh don’t worry you’ll do fine but you should have stuck it out a bit longer maybe.” Shit like that gets on my nerves, I’m tired of people judging me on the basis of what they’re seeing and not knowing the details as to why I quit. They don’t have the experience I went through previously or the instinct to feel that way. I had to go to the manager with the balls to say I quit because deep down you know it’s wrong for you. I made a decision that was best for me and my career yet people can’t get passed that, as I’ve stated before and will state continuously throughout this blog it was my decision, don’t judge it from my previous experiences and actually find out the reason as to why I quit so early on.

I’m not just talking about friends or family either, it’s just people in general e.g. previous work colleagues or customers I built relationships with. They hear the story of me quitting three jobs and already cast an opinion. They’ve not understood why I quit and they’re seeing it from a two dimensional view, it’s funny for them; they see someone who’s quit a job they hated, went to another job and quit that and now landed themselves another job and quit that one. They haven’t heard my side and have judged me from the word go, so here we are; to all you judgmental people here’s why I quit those jobs. From the top to the bottom.

First job – Retail, loathed the last 6 months. At first it was fantastic as I was learning a new skill, meeting new people and getting paid! What’s not too like? After a while it just drained me; targets, service and seeing the same customers and having the same conversations day in day out. It got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore. I gritted my teeth for a multitude of months and ploughed through, I hated it. I woke up not wanting to go there and one day that was it, a few bad words and I quit. Just like that. I gave one week’s notice and I was gone. I’m not bothering to get to deep with feelings and stuff with this one as I’ve blogged about it numerous times and it’ll be me just dragging up the past even more, not fun for anyone.

Second job – clothing retail, most of you know the story of this one. If not let me jog your memory. Landed this dream job, Ralph Lauren; doesn’t get much better than that right? The only problem was it was a bit of a trek to get to. It was a rough 15-20 minute train journey and then a 10 minute walk to the store but truth is I wasn’t fussed about that, it’s Ralph Lauren I would travel much further to be working for a brand as luxurious as that. Well, after doing my training days I found out they made a mistake and told me I was being placed on the suit section! My dreams were shattered, suits! I had absolutely no interest for it. I called up the following morning and told them I wasn’t going to be working there, it made no sense money wise either. People began to judge and told me to stick it out but I knew it was pointless; it made no sense financially either:

It cost me £6 to get up there, I was going to be working 5 days a week therefore it would be £30 a week, £120 a month down the drain for a job I had no interest in. Can you see my point? If I was still on Ralph Lauren I would definitely have stayed there but because there was no interest or fire in my belly to work on a suit section it just wasn’t worth it.

Third job (latest one) – selling phones, just very reminiscent to my first job; but much worse. I quit after giving it sometime but I just had that gut feeling of it not being my career. It’s funny; I had the same feeling working at this latest job as I did when I knew I wanted to quit my first. It was instinct. I wasn’t wasting another 2.5 years of my life feeling drained and tired from life, it’s just not worth it. Sure you have security within having a job but is it worth waking up in the mornings feeling tired before the days even started? No. I can use that time to my advantage and search for a job I’m going to enjoy. The problem is everyone is seeing me quit this third job and just assuming and judging I’m quitting at the first hurdle, I’m not. I’m just being smart about it; the thing they aren’t seeing is I’ve decided to do what’s best for me. I stuck it out at my first job for far too long and it stressed me out therefore it’s silly for me to be feeling that way about this third job and continue to stick it out.

Hopefully that made some sense, let me try phrase it better. I’ve had the experience of gritting my teeth and smiling through a frown with my first job. Once I entered that third job I sensed and felt exactly the same as my first therefore with my previous knowledge and experience of hating a job why should I stick at it just because it’s a ‘job’ you know what I mean? But a lot of people don’t see that, they just see “oh he’s quit another job again.” They’re completely overlooking my situation and not getting the full details.

I had a fantastic interview as well today for a much better job, just to think I could have missed that today all because I was sticking out a job I already knew was going to be a problem for me. Then they ask how do you know it would be like that? And in the easiest way to put it is, I’ve already experienced it and had the ‘symptoms’ so to speak.

There you have it, I’ve just rambled on and on about it because I’m sick of explaining my situation to people. I haven’t quit 2 jobs just because I fell at the first hurdle; I was smart enough to get out of those situations because I knew they would only get worse.

Stop judging people and think before you speak. The comments from people saying I’m a quitter and shit like that have annoyed me to the point where writing this was so much easier than trying to get it into their brain I wasn’t quitting at the first hurdle, that’s why it’s not as grammatically correct as it should be or as smooth as my usual blogs. It’s for the people who’re judging me and won’t let me explain my situation, if you still don’t get it; re-read it. Again and again until you do…

Like I said I wrote this yesterday and got a call today saying I’ve been offered a job for the interview yesterday. Truth is I couldn’t be happier and just to think I wouldn’t have landed it if I stuck at the job I already knew I hated!

Enjoy your day folks!

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The Topic of Volunteerism! A Tad Controversial Folks.

Wrote this one yesterday, fine-tuned today. Enjoy guys!

It’s a very rare sight for me to be angered, let alone outraged on a Sunday. Yes you heard that right folks! I’m angered on a Sunday. It’s a day for peace and tranquillity, a time to reflect on the week before and look forward to the week ahead; not to be fuelled with opinionated thoughts on a sub sequential topic that I thought need not be discussed.

What’s the topic in question you ask?

‘Volunteerism is a waste of time and money’

Before we get into this I would just like to add, I’ve never volunteered myself. This is coming solely from research gained from others and at no point did I mean for this to come out biased, I hope it hasn’t come out biased as I felt I’ve kept both argument’s fair. If it has come out biased though and unfortunately offended you, I sincerely apologise as that wasn’t my true intentions.

It’s a controversial one for me; one I didn’t even know was controversial in fact. You hear the word volunteer and something in your mind just clicks; you automatically assume it’s going to be a story or a gesture of good will. To be volunteering and helping out others for reasons other than financial profit is amazing; you tend to assume everything around it’s going to be right as rain.

Well what I’ve learned is this fact may not be so true, there’s a deep and almost monstrous shadow cast over the act of volunteering or volunteerism as it’s commonly known.

It’s hard to do this one without coming from a biased stand point. I feel as if my minds already made up from my previous experiences and knowledge about volunteering itself. I’m going to try and put both arguments across for you guys so you can make up your own judgement but be warned the article that unintentionally angered me may cause some knock on affects to you! You think you can handle this? Ready? Okay…Let’s go!

What is ‘voluntourism?’

First I should give you some background information about volunteerism so you’re not coming in empty handed. Essentially it’s a form of tourism in which travellers participate in voluntary work, typically for a charity. Yeah I got that from Google, don’t hate! But it sounds pretty good, right? Who doesn’t want to travel across the globe helping others and gaining multiple life experiences money can’t buy! The chance to experience the gratefulness of a gesture of good will, the chance to give to those less fortunate and know you’ve helped their life whether it’s substantial or not! It sounds perfect doesn’t it? The truth is not all think so.

I figure there’s only one easy way to do this; most of my readers will have already guessed where this is going. It’s those beautiful things we call lists, better yet a list of the pros and cons to volunteerism, sit back and relish in my bullet pointed wonder and then judge for yourself!

Pros:

  • Tourism! It’s in the name people, need I say more? You can visit exotic locations throughout your travels, admittedly it may not be all the time however there are a few places you can visit giving you that well needed break from helping others and just live, experience life as you should. There’s a true beauty in that.
  • Knowing you’ve helped out. Obviously you’re not going to be superman to the entire country or town however there can be a real sense of achievement knowing you’ve made someone’s quality of life better or just improved how they feel, you know what I mean? I’m not a huge charitable guy but on nights out if there’s a homeless person begging for food and money I always go and get them a burger; it’s a 99p burger. Why should we suffer and starve for our most essential quality of life? It’s a necessity to eat and replenish ourselves yet we still have people who go without, it’s truly shocking. Off topic I know but it needed to be said. So basically the whole point is just gaining the sense of accomplishment within one’s self and knowing you’ve actually helped out another person’s life can make it all that worthwhile.
  • You get to take a break from the stress of ‘home-life.’ From what I’ve read a lot of the people who’ve voyaged on the task of volunteerism have done this on a gap year or taken a break from home life, it gets you away from all the negativity of what you have to deal with and lets you see the world in a completely different perspective, it really shows you how lucky we are at times. We complain about the minutest of things; being too cold, waiting for food at a restaurant or not having enough money you know, silly things. Truth is most of these are easy to deal with or just pointless to complain about but volunteering to help others where people are struggling and really have nothing and I mean nothing, can give you an intense perspective on the spectrum of reality.
  • You take home an education of different cultures. You can gain this eye-opening experience on how others eat, live and congregate with each other. It’s a perfect way to break from that usual routine of life; you know the one 9-5 Monday to Friday or study, study, study. With volunteerism you get the opportunity to break that cycle and relish within another world and experience their routines.
  • The country or place where you’re visiting gets an influx of your specific skill sets or knowledge into certain topics. I hope that makes sense, you would tell me if it didn’t right? What I’m trying to put across is the place you’re visiting can gain your knowledge to benefit them for future reference or you can teach them skills or tips to benefit in their daily lives.
  • You get this cross between cultures within the community. They get insights into how you lead your life and then you get insights on how they lead their lives. It promotes a whole new social aspect to volunteerism and benefits both parties involved.

Cons:

  • In some cases there’s been a lot less time for the tourism aspect of actually going out there, what’s happened before is some people have travelled to these exotic locations but have fell short where work is the main priority. They had no chance to get out and sight-see which is a main part of ‘volun’ The work eventually ended up taking over and all that money spent on flights out there and places to stay haven’t been worth it, sure you get to meet new people and get to help out but you’re completely missing out on the goal of also tourism itself. You need some ‘me’ time as well, otherwise it’s very similar to your situation at home where you’re constantly working however this time you’re emotional aspect can come into play as well and you don’t benefit in the long run.
  • In some cases voluntourism itself actually affects the lives of others, not for good though for bad, let me explain; when multiple organisations after organisations comes into these countries or towns what actually happens is, it puts local trade out of business. When you have hundreds of tourists coming in to say donate clothes, build support systems or erect buildings for free the local business men and women then have no one to offer their services to. It puts the local tradesmen and women out of work thus not actually helping the community itself almost damaging it in a way. Sure you can argue the case of the tourists helping out the smaller proportion of the community but wouldn’t you rather help out all the community. By employing the local businessmen and women to do the same work the tourists do for free surely it benefits both parties. It can swing both ways though that one, you see why it gets a bit controversial?
  • This next point is more defined rather than surveying the whole aspect of volunteerism; it’s aimed at helping in orphanages. Let’s face it working in an orphanage, from an outsiders perspective seems a daunting and emotional challenge. It’s high-rewarding but it can be very life changing in certain ways. At this point I’m wondering if this could actually go in both sections but I’ll decide to leave it here for now. So, when an orphan has lost their mother, father or even both and has no one to bond with, it’s got to be emotionally terrible. I can only image the pain and trauma they must go through. In some cases what’s so controversial about helping out at an orphanage is, when you make these deep connected bonds with the children it can have knock on effects. Say you’re visiting an orphanage for 3 weeks, you meet all these lovely children and connect with them, after those 3 weeks are finished you leave and you feel fantastic. The problem it can cause is the child’s now been left alone yet again, a friend torn from them and a bond broken. It can be disastrous for how they’re feeling and unfortunately the bond you’ve created shattered and they can then go through a variety of emotions; they feel angered, sad it’s not fair on the child.
  • Like I said though it’s not all bad. It can go both ways, some orphans may enjoy the company; they may enjoy the companionship and feel as if they have a friend anywhere in the world. It just has to be judged with the child’s interest first, not the volunteers!

Controversial, am I right?

In no way do I want this post to knock the wonderful act of volunteering or in fact even halter anyone from going. As I said previously it’s quite hard to judge as I’m not speaking from experience and at times almost coming from a biased perspective, I never intended to do that. I wanted both sides to have an equal argument where the reader can make up their mind.

In my personal opinion:

Carry on, but and that’s a big BUT, there needs to be more rules and guidelines for doing so. Let’s face it, who’s interest do you have at heart, yours and your egos or the people you intend to help? If it’s yours I feel you need to change that, sure it’s nice to get a sense of accomplishment but if you’re solely going there for that purpose it’s a problem. If you’re going there to gain a sense of experience, accomplishment and actually help out then by all means go for it.

There’s huge potential for volunteerism to benefit those who’re less fortunate than us, I really mean that. But as we speak now, I can only wonder is it more about being self-indulgent or is it more about helping others. Until you do some research for yourself into the area you’re travelling to or understand the local culture it’s hard to tell.

You can’t forget you’re a tourist as well; you need a break every now and then. You can’t go all through life being nice and then take nothing for yourself, you deserve a treat. Go visit the hotspots, go see the sights and enjoy yourself.

The one and final point I wish to repeat is I’ve never volunteered myself. This is coming solely from research gained from others and at no point did I mean for this to come out biased, if it has and the post itself has unfortunately offended you, I apologise. As I said, I think it’s a wonderful idea that we should all embrace but we need to look at the system and how it’s run. That being said can you take my point and respect it even though I’ve not actually tried it for myself? It’s down to you to make that call.

What are your thoughts on voluntourism/volunteerism?

Enjoy your day!

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The Meaning of Life – Chapter 1.

“I would rather live poor and happy than die rich and lonely.”

For time is all we have; money, dreams, life and love are speckles of dust within our ever perishing lights of life. We create memories for a life we forget and memories that others grieve for. They perceive our life in a multitude of emotions all up until our last ember leaves our dimming soul and creates a new one. They can go through your entire life with thoughts of love, anger, hell they can even want to kill you. But you know what the sickening truth is? It doesn’t matter, life is about experience, and how happy you are isn’t based on an eternity of man-made wealth, we forget this fact more often than not. We lose sight of reality. My wealth is based on life experiences and I’m the richest of the kind.

Chapter 1

“You’re a spineless, good for nothing sack of shit Bill.” Yeah I’ve heard this all before, I wasn’t fazed. Yeah maybe I was a bit angry but phased? Far from it. Is this what life’s come to I pondered. I vowed to myself at 18 I would never end up in that same shit different day routine, now look at me. Same shit, different day routine. She was trying to rip me a new one all because the rent was due and money was tight, how could she blame me for that shit? I work my ass 24/7 in a job I loathe indubitably and she gets on my back the minute I walk through the door. My strings were snapping, you go throughout life being nice to everyone you ever meet and what do you get in return? Nothing, sure the world doesn’t owe you anything and it never will, it’s what you make out of life but there’s those times when you just think to yourself; “where’s my love?”

I snapped my tie with a tight grip I know all too well, kicked my shoes off my aching feet and sat on the sofa. You’ve seen the films, it’s that epiphany moment; the world blurs and meshes into the backing, the screams and torrent of abuse just become a silent murmur and then my mind fell blank. It was that ‘pin drop moment’ you hear all the time, I just had enough. I’ve felt this way for years, today was the day I changed that.

Crap, Did I forget to introduce myself to you, I did didn’t I. As you’ve guessed my name’s Bill, yeah I was the one getting called a ‘spineless sack of shit’ but before we delve into that I bring you my childhood, my rather flat childhood I should say. Everyone loves to intrude and drag the mess from one another’s lives to make theirs feel all that much better, before you try and do that to me I shall just tell you.

I lived a basic life, from the age of 6 I always loved to write. It wasn’t until I was much older I began to get deep into it, like I said before I was very average in all aspects of this world. I woke up, went to school, done my homework and repeated this process. I guess that’s an ever recurring routine we all know too well. I watched my parents do the same; they put food on the table and warmth into my heart. I didn’t understand as a child but once I hit those teenage years it just all fell apart. I had dreams, aspirations and so did they however they ploughed through a life they didn’t want just so I was happy. I wonder how they look at me now, they wanted and pushed me to reach for whatever goal I could conjure up in my lost mind however I’m a fucking accountant and barely scraping by, I fucked up, big time. What would they think of me now?

Throughout childhood I was a spotty geek, a recluse of sorts. I just wandered in and out of dreaming and reality almost every day, my mind had gotten into the routine of wanting more yet never having the balls to do so. That’s probably why I’m like this now. I shouldn’t make excuses, to be quite frank I shouldn’t be complaining I have a roof over my head but do I have a life I want to lead, no. I was far from it. I met my current girlfriend in a fucking Starbucks, romantic? I think not. I was sat down just going over a few clients’ accounts on my laptop, it was a packed Friday morning and of course the empty seat was next to me. Now admittedly I was jumping to and from work and social network sites, maybe I was on the social sites a bit too much than I should have been but hey at the time I weren’t complaining. I just stopped giving a fuck.

I was watching a video, some silly video about dogs and what they do with their owners, truth is I can’t really remember but what I do remember was this beautiful girl sitting next to me. It’s odd, I was always shy within my professional life yet in a social environment I was able to relish, I could come off as the most confident man in the world but deep down I was a lost lonely wanderer.

Essentially I’m going to cut a rather boring love story short, I’m sick of love. It disgusts me at this point in my futile existence, I’ve only just realised I need friendship, I didn’t want to fall in love, but I did. She kept peering over at the video and she slightly giggled, that was the chance to open up a conversation. Like I said, just your average life nothing out of the normal, we exchanged names and contact numbers and ended up going on multiple dates.

We fell in love to quick, we pushed the boundaries and jumped straight into the deep end; our love eventually drowned when we began living together. I’m choosing not to reveal her name or compromise this story; at one time in my life she was perfect. Why should I cause her suffering by betraying our bond we once had? With our professional lives taking over our relationship went stale; we fell in and out of love far too much. She wasn’t interested in me anymore. I found myself drawing back the curtains each morning with disgust in my heart, you could call me nasty for saying that but it’s true. We despised each other, the sex was non-existent only ever on birthdays and we never did anything romantic. I think back wondering what caused all of this, maybe it’s not having the balls to go for goals and dreams. I was just letting the world trample all over me.

Like I said, it was an average childhood and an average adult/romantic life; it’s my memories and tales of adult life that really out shadow the richest of humans.

Snap back to reality.

I blurred her shit out my mind, that tether holding back my fears and reclusive behaviour magically broke. It was like a drug had entered within my system and controlled my whole body, I was more than alive, and I was on cloud 9. You end up taking so much shit from the entire world all you can do is break, I ran upstairs still in a different spectrum of reality; I grabbed the wallet on the drawer, my passport from my closet and ran back downstairs. My legs wandered to the door and that was it, a middle finger back at her and a viscous “goodbye” I was gone. I didn’t understand what happened; I couldn’t believe I just did what I had done. I usually have a guilt trip after doing something nasty or malicious however this time, nothing.

I was living. I was young, 23 and without a plan.

Next stop the nearest airport.

Is University Worth It?

Everyone loves a bit of controversy in the morning, I hope. This is going to be exactly that, it’s something to get your grills all heated, something to make your blood boil whilst you pour the hot water into that morning coffee and most of all its calmly debatable. It’s a tough one to present to you folks without taking up a biased position, I guess you’re wondering what my credentials are for this and to tell you the truth I have none. It doesn’t mean I’m bashing university; in all honesty I would like to go some day.

How’s this going to be a fair fight then?

Well, after long and careful consideration it’s going to have to be a pro’s and cons list. I wrote a few drafts previously and after reading them back they just sound as if one’s outweighing the other, it’s not fair. I want this to be equal, so without further ado/adieu (I don’t want no problems on the whole ado/adieu situation, I’m not that smart I can’t decide which one!) let’s begin!

Going to University!

Pros:

  • Education – Believe it or not, after all those wild ass parties and those horrendous hangovers after the allocated time at university you can actually walk away with an education. Funny right? If you buckle down and grind your ass off you can increase your prospectus within this big bad world, you get your degree into whatever field you’ve chosen to pursue and man, you’re off! People often say it’s more about experience than education however in my personal experience I think education definitely makes you stand out. University gives you the chance to broaden your horizons; it gives you an outlet into life skills you may not require within the ‘real’ world.

What do I mean by this?

Well take things such as the debating society or a movie theatre club, if you get yourself into those activities it shows how much of an outgoing and enthusiastic person you are. It shows you have a human side rather than just work, work, work. After you’ve completed these activities it’s a great booster to have on your CV, it sets you up for life whether it is personal or education, you’ve gained essential skills you probably wouldn’t have if you were doing your 40+ hours a week, there’s limited time.

  • Meeting New People – Think about it, everyone’s in the same boat as you. Everyone’s going to be feeling nervous, excited, home sick; there’s a vast variety of emotions you will go through. You’re leaving your home to live in a world where independence is everything. You need to learn for yourself but it’s all the more fun learning with others, am I right? Because everyone else has these same emotions gushing and coursing throughout their bodies it can make them easier to talk to, you have something to relate back to them with. There are people who meet their wives at university! There’s people who bond at university and can create everlasting friendships, it’s such a perfect place to meet new people.
  • The Whole Life Experience – University has this label of being a big party, as I said previously I cannot say as I haven’t attended uni however the stories you hear often make you think otherwise. That’s not a bad thing either, would you rather be 19 fresh faced and stuck working a job you have no real passion for or would you rather be in a lecture discussing your favourite topic with people from all over the globe and then going to a wild ass party afterwards. I know what I would do, obviously it has to be the latter yet that’s more than likely because I’m still discovering myself and this whole party ‘culture’ whereas someone who has a family may choose the first one. Shit, that was a bit biased wasn’t it? Apologies. What I’m trying to get across is you can leave Uni with a vast amount of stories and experiences you will treasure forever, and memories you can look back at once you’re 50 and think “wow, I miss those days” you know what I mean?

Cons:

  • Not Passing Your Exams – It’s all good being at university and having a laugh however if you don’t put your work in, it can cause problems further down the line. Think about it, you can spend 3 to 4 years at university but if you fail and don’t get that degree it does make you wonder, was it worth it? I mean you end up leaving with no degree, no work experience and are stuck with a vast amount of money needing to be paid back. This leaves you out of the water in terms of applying for jobs and starting a career, the interviewers going to wonder why there’s such a huge gap on your CV seeing as you didn’t pass. I hope this doesn’t scare anyone from going but it’s the truth, all that time and there’s no guarantee you’re going to pass, it’s all down to the work you put in.
  • Costly Fee’s – I’m not too sure whether this is really a huge con, in reality quite a lot of people who go to university won’t actually end up working in that field they’ve studied in until they’re much older, not solid research however it’s what I’ve found through people I’ve talked to and who have actually studied at uni, quite a lot have ended up with mediocre jobs and won’t be in a field they enjoy until they gain experience to back up their degree. Back to the point, if you do get a high paying job straight out of the gate of university it’s got to be fantastic, you can pay of those fee’s, you’re doing a job you love and most of all enjoying life. From what I’ve gather the problem a huge amount of university students find is getting that dream job to pay of those fees. After a while life stops becoming all rainbows and butterflies and you’re welcomed into the real world where you need to work a job you hate at times to make ends meet, the only problem with that is if you’re earning over a certain amount you will need to make ends meet by paying rent, food, gas, electric and all your essentials then have student fees and loans to pay off on top. It’s a huge bummer.
    *You don’t end up paying off your debts until you earn over £21,000.
  • Lack of Money – Fresher’s week, woo!
  • “That dress looks nice”
  • “What about them shoes?”
  • “I think I’ll order a dominos”
  • “Can you help me out, I’m broke”

You have to be very wary and efficient with your money at university, I guess when your grant comes through it must be overwhelming to see this vast amount in your bank yet the problem with that is there’s always the chance to be so overwhelmed you go out and blow it all.  You need to be efficient with your rent money, food, and essentials and maybe travel expenses. There’s so much more to take into consideration like extra bills and what not but the point I’m trying to get across is you’re going to be strapped for cash if you end up wasting your grant and this happens quite often. People get reckless with their money; they can go out to clubs and spend ridiculous amounts on alcohol, not wise.

If you’re out of work it’s the same as well but if you’ve got a steady job and pay check coming in you can always be re-assured with that whereas if you haven’t got a job whilst in uni and have blown through most of your loan, it starts to get a bit scary, well I think it would get scary. It’s tough to have this perspective, it feels a bit biased again and I think it’s time to wrap it up.

What was the point to all this? Whilst being out of work for a while I constantly thought to myself have I missed out on an opportunity by not going to uni? It was odd, I’ve always hated studying but there’s something about uni that’s so different. It’s not like school, you know what I mean? You get that first taste of independence in life, you get the chance to create lifelong memories and converse with people from all over the globe. You get the chance to study a subject you’re passionate about, hell you even get a degree at the end to say I’ve study this course for 3 to 4 years, it’s a bragging right to say “hey I know what I’m talking about.” You get to go to wild parties and just enjoy life.

I took the route of not going to college or uni therefore I have to live with that yet when I’m out in a nightclub and meeting new people and they’re talking about their work and their dreams and aspirations it does hit home at times, you wonder if you’re on the right route or career in life. I guess I’m lucky because I’ve got a wide variety of experience on my CV yet I wonder if I’ve got a wide experience in life in general. It’s tough, that’s life though am I right?

What are your thoughts on university?

Enjoy your day!

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Job Interviews!

After an influx of exhausting and daunting interviews, where their main goal is to get deep into the core of your very existence and conjure out every tiny piece of information in regards to why you would like to work for a specific company, I’ve finally landed a new ‘new’ job. I guess you’re perplexed, pondering to yourself what’s this new ‘new’ job all about?

Well, most of you know the story but I’ve had a few new readers come through as of late therefore I feel I need to explain! I really should start putting all this work related stuff into sub-sections in my blog; it would be so much easier. Long story short, quit my job I hated and landed a perfect job elsewhere but they decided to change my departments as to where I was going to work and it just all crumbled apart so I quit that job roughly 2/3 weeks ago and I’ve been spending the past few weeks in tedious interviews.

Here’s what I’ve learned from those interviews!

  • Research – Do your research folks, honestly it’s been the biggest downfall to some of my interviews. Sure you can rock up to an interview and ace all the other questions however the interviewer is investing in you and your potential. They want to see you’ve got the passion to go out of your way and learn about the company. In some very extreme cases if you interview well and don’t know much about the brand it can work, it’s very slim but it can happen however I don’t advise it, do your research!
  • Be Presentable – I’ve been to those group interviews (they really suck) and the vast amount of people who’ve decided to turn up in a pair of jeans and a t-shirt is astounding. First impressions make a whole world of difference, you need to be the part and look the part! You don’t always need to put on a whole suit but you just being formal is good enough, I’m talking your shirts, your ties and most importantly clean shoes!
  • Be Calm and Confident – Some interviewers will understand you may be feeling nervous or even scared to interview and it’s tough not to let it show, especially if it’s your first one. I’m lucky, I’ve been through that whole experience and applied for the most outrageous of positions where the interviewer has pummelled me with the toughest questions yet the trick to this is to just breathe. Understand the question; don’t jitter around with an answer you should talk slowly and clearly. Look them in the eye when you’re talking and when they’re talking, it shows a certain confidence. Don’t look them in the eye for too long though; it may come off a tad odd!
  • Time – Get there on time folks! Pretty self-explanatory but you won’t believe the amount of people who turn up 5 minutes before an interview, you definitely need to give yourself more time than that. I usually go with 15 minutes but you can get away with 10.
  • Ask Questions – You need to prepare yourself with a few questions to ask about the employer, the brand or the working life. Try not to sound too intrusive if you’re asking about your employer, you don’t want it to come off as you’re asking what their credentials are. You definitely want to ask about the company though, it shows you have researched about the brand itself and have an actual interest to work within the company; you’re not one of these people who just turn up and try to wing it.

There we are my top 5 tips for the world to see! Hopefully you retain a few of these and it lands you your dream job!

Enjoy your day folks!

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Nostalgic Music From The 90’s & Early 2000’s. Part 2.

It’s Monday, I know you guys are in a bad mood! You’re in luck though, I’m not.

I unfortunately found myself in that nostalgic mood once again today, I got lost in there. Childhood memories and all that jazz just swept me up; I definitely went through the emotions! It’s nice though because I’ve recently come into some luck with jobs and job interviews and it’s slowly getting there! Things are definitely looking up folks!

So why am I blabbing on about all this ridiculous nonsense?

Well to cut to the chase; with all this luck flooding in, I’ve decided to go out tonight and enjoy myself, yet you can’t go out without being in the mood, am I right? You need to get into the groove! (No Madonna pun intended) therefore I was browsing through my iTunes library and boy oh boy I just can’t pinpoint that one song! You know the ones I mean, that song that takes you back and just gets your feet tapping.

I’m still looking for it folks!…Whilst I’ve been searching I figured I would do a follow up to all those nostalgic songs in part 1 – http://routinedreamer.com/2014/10/06/nostalgic-music-from-the-90s-early-2000-part-1/

If you can name a few songs to get me in the groove drop a comment!

Sit back and reminisce, you can thank me later guys!

  1. Leona Lewis – Bleeding Love.
  2. Kanye West – Stronger.
  3. Akon – Smack That.
  4. Nizlopi – JCB Song.
  5. Westlife – You Raise Me Up.
  6. Will Smith – Switch.
  7. Kid Rock – All Summer Long.
  8. Smash Mouth – I’m A Believer.
  9. Flo Rida – Low.
  10. Green Day – Wake Me Up When September Ends.
  11. Usher – Confessions.
  12. Coldplay – The Scientist.
  13. Nelly – Hot In Here.
  14. Nickleback – Photograph.
  15. Kanye West – Gold Digger.
  16. Red Hot Chili Peppers – Dani California.
  17. Hinder – Lips Of An Angel.
  18. Uncle Kracker – Follow Me.
  19. Nelly – Over and Over.
  20. Akon – Sorry, Blame It on Me.
  21. Mike Posner – Cooler Than Me.
  22. Beyonce – Halo.
  23. Kings Of Leon – Use Somebody.
  24. DMX – Party Up In Here.
  25. Dre featuring Snoop Dogg – The Next Episode.
  26. Lady Gaga – Poker Face.
  27. Black Eyed Peas – I Gotta Feeling.
  28. Britney Spears – Toxic.
  29. Johnny Cash – Hurt.
  30. Katy Perry – I Kissed a Girl.
  31. Kelly – Trapped in the Closet.
  32. Ke$ha – Tik Tok.
  33. Shakira feautring Wyclef – Hips Don’t Lie.
  34. Snoop Dogg featuring Pharrell – Drop It like It’s Hot.
  35. I. featuring Rihanna – Live Your Life.
  36. Macy Gray – I Try.
  37. 3 Doors Down – Kryptonite.
  38. Sisqò – Thong Song.
  39. The Killers – Mr. Brightside.
  40. Justin Timberlake featuring Timbaland – SexyBack.
  41. Beyoncé – Single Ladies. (Put A Ring On It)
  42. R-Kelly – Happy People.
  43. Amy Winehouse – Back To Black.
  44. Blue – One Love.
  45. Infernal – From Paris to Berlin.
  46. Ludacris – Runaway Love.
  47. The Streets – Dry Your Eyes.
  48. Owl City – Fireflies.
  49. Bone Thugs-N-Harmony – I Tried.
  50. James Blunt – You’re Beautiful.

*Wipes forehead* Phew that was a lot of songs! Drop a comment if any of these brought back some memories for you guys! They certainly did for me!

Enjoy your day!

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The History Of Air Jordan! Part 1!

It’s a franchise globally known, a sneaker I’ve spent countless amounts of money on and a brand leader who we can all aspire to be.

Yes ladies and gentleman I’m talking about the classic Air Jordan franchise. It’s a sneaker worn by a vast majority of basketball players, your favourite rappers, rappers and pretty much anyone and everyone in the world. The classic 9-5 business man in his slick suits and shining shoes has a secret collection of Air Jordan sneakers!

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To tell you the truth I’ve been putting this one off for some time now, not because it’s hard or ‘tiring’ so to speak, in all honesty it’s just so rich with history! There’s far too much to be blogging about but you know what you lucky group of people? I’m going to do just that today!

So sit back and relax as we walk through time and go through the details of one of the biggest franchises in the world; the Air Jordan brand!

  • The Air Jordan 1 – 1984.

So it’s 1984, a young Michael Jordan has just won a national title at the University of North Carolina, in addition to this he also received a gold medal in the Olympic games in Los Angeles. Talk about work ethic folks! Chicago Bulls selected Mike (if I can call him Mike) 3rd overall in the NBA draft but what’s interesting is within that year Mike also signed a deal with the brand Nike (hopefully everyone’s heard of them) under a contract of 5 years’ worth a reported $2.5 million! Wowzers.

In 1985 Nike gave Jordan his personal line of sneakers and apparel, it’s worth to mention before the Air Jordan franchise most basketball sneakers were very simple and plain therefore Nike wanted this deal to revolutionise the basketball world, boy did it work!

The designer Peter Moore was given the task to create the first Air Jordan sneaker, it’s funny because you can see the similarities between the Air Jordan shoe and the Air Force 1 sneaker itself. Take a look!

Air Jordan 1: The classic Chicago Bulls colour way!
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Nike Air Force 1: See the similarities!
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This sneaker single handily set in stone the colourful shoes we see on court today. It changed everyone’s perspective on the basketball sneaker world and revolutionised the industry.  During the 1985 NBA season Jordan wore the Air Jordan 1 on court, even though the NBA banned them for their blatant disregard for the rules regarding shoe colours! Jordan was fined up to $5,000 for each game he wore them. It’s funny because Nike gladly paid the bills and the fines themselves actually gave the Air Jordan brand more of a buzz due to the controversy surrounding them. Jordan’s rookie career was a phenomenon; taking home rookie of the year honours, leading the Chicago Bulls to the playoffs and scoring 63 points against the Boston Celtics! All the time wearing the Air Jordan 1, a brand was born.

  • The Air Jordan 2 – 1987.

Wow, what a storm Jordan created! By this time Jordan himself was moving up in the ranks, after the frenzy the Air Jordan 1 sneaker created it was time to re-design  and who else could you get to take part in an overhaul of the sneaker; the legendary Bruce Kilgore. If you’re unsure as to whom he is, he’s the creator of the Air Force 1 sneaker, the biggest and best sneaker in the world. I did even do a blog about the sneaker itself, here’s the link; http://routinedreamer.com/2014/07/03/for-the-love-of-sneakers-3/ he made a sneaker worn by old and young, a true designer! Anyway, back to Jordan!

During the time every Nike shoe produced had the classic swoosh along the side, it was a status symbol for Nike and their company, in a way it still is. So did the Air Jordan 2 include the classic swoosh along the side? No, no it did not. The sneaker was such a simple design with upgraded and luxurious materials.

The sneaker was known for its upgrades in quality; a full air unit on the midsole to cushion Jordan’s sore foot after he’d broken it, unfortunately missing a fair amount of the season, a faux lizard skin upper and the classic Air Jordan wings logo embossed on the tongue! You could say it was the first “luxury” basketball sneaker to hit the court, simple yet outstanding. It set the path for quality footwear within basketball, unfortunately it didn’t hit the court as much as the Air Jordan brand would’ve liked however it’s got its place in history as it’s part of the brand.

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That’s one of the original Air Jordan 2 sneakers! As you can see overtime the original base has began to yellow, think about how old they are though!

Fun fact: Michael won his first slam dunk contest actually wearing the Air Jordan 2 sneaker, fans loved it.

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Notice the sneakers folks! *They had a few colour ways that’s why it’s different to the picture above!

  • The Air Jordan 3 – 1988.

In my eyes and many others this was the one that changed the game. This sneaker is coursing throughout the streets of the USA, throughout the streets of the world. This shoe now is a collector’s item, worn or un-worn. Look out of your window, look in the shopping stores I can guarantee someone will have a pair of Jordan’s on! I hope that theory works…

After the success of Bruce Kilgore’s Air Jordan 2 Nike decided to look for a new designer, one of the best; Tinker Hatfield. He was the man in charge to revolutionise the sneaker game and man what a gem he created. He switched the whole aspect of the Jordan sneaker up, and created a completely new design!

So what were the details of the new sneakers?

First, the Air Jordan 1 & 2 included the iconic “wings” logo however Tinker Hatfield decided to change this piece and re-branded the Jordan “logo” into the “Jumpman” and he placed it on the tongue of the shoe. This silhouette of Jordan was to celebrate his Slam Dunk Contest victory the year before.

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A fun fact: Every Jordan after the Air Jordan 3 features this Jumpman on the shoe. You learn something new everyday folks!

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The Air Jordan 3 was also the first to feature a visible air unit within the sole, something that was so extraordinary to the basketball world and then lastly, the Air Jordan 3 featured an elephant print design on the upper part of the sneaker. This was such a bold statement for the Air Jordan brand as it represented a fashionable side to the sneaker itself. It gave it that “jazz” that people wanted, you don’t want a sneaker that’s solely for basketball, you want a sneaker you can wear when you’re out on the streets, and you want that stand out shoe! That’s what the Air Jordan 3 was, a stand out shoe!

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The first 3 done! There’s a lot more to come, we’ll save that for part 2 folks! Hopefully you’ve learned something about the famous Jordan brand today!

Enjoy your day!

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Writers Block; 20 Facts I Guess!

I’m not going to beat around the bush here; I’m having a huge day of writers block folks! Everything’s coming out in drips and drabs, yet it’s still not sounding how I want it to. My whole sentence structure and choice of vocabulary just seems off, I hate days like these! In a sense I guess you can call this blog post ‘cheating’ but we’ll keep that on the down low! So as I sit here slowly slurping on my cold-ish cup of tea I find myself wondering; “what am I going to blog about today?” To tell you guys the truth, I haven’t got a clue!

Solution.

Everyone loves a good set of facts, whether they’re true or not true! Therefore (I’m pretty sure you’ve guessed where this is going) it’s going to be a fact day guys!

  1. America’s first self-made millionaire was actually a black female! I’m not sure as to why this came as such a surprise to me but when I found out my jaw dropped a little. Her name was Madam C.J. Walker. She made her fortune by developing and selling a range of beauty products for black women all under her company name The Madam C.J. Walker Company! They unfortunately closed business in 1981 however it’s such a wonderful story I couldn’t not share! Don’t worry there not all this lengthy!
  2. A man named Walter Summerford was struck by lightning three times in his life. After his death, his gravestone was also struck.
  3. In 2013, Norway had to close Brattli Tunnel because 27 tons of caramelized brown goat cheese caught fire.
  4. An officer of the California highway patrol, Sgt Kevin Briggs, has stopped more than 200 people from committing suicide on the Golden Gate Bridge.
  5. About 70% of the spices used in the world come from India.
  6. In 2008, when Gordon Ramsay was filming in Iceland, he lost his footing and fell during a descent off an 85 feet cliff, landing in the icy water below. His film crew reported he was submerged for at least 45 seconds.
  7. The first drinking straw was designed to have a diameter slightly smaller than the typical lemon pip, as the inventor was tired of getting lemon seeds in his mouth when drinking lemonade.
  8. When Twister (the game) was introduced in 1966 it was known by its competitors as “sex in a box.”
  9. There are more life forms living on your skin than there are humans on the planet.
  10. J. Simpson was considered for the Terminator, but the producers feared he was “too nice” to be taken seriously as a cold-blooded killer.
  11. Torchwood, the spin-off series from Doctor Who is actually an anagram of “Doctor Who”.
  12. In 1976 Ron Wayne sold his shares in Apple for $800 – today they’d be worth over $35 billion.
  13. A Tyrannosaurus Rex ran at about 18mph. An average human runs at 8mph.
  14. Bottling up your emotions can lead to depression. If you have no one to talk to, write a blog or journal.
  15. The average American/Canadian will eat about 11.9 pounds of cereal per year!
  16. Jellyfish are about 98 percent water.
  17. Milkshakes were originally an alcoholic whiskey drink
  18. Notorious BIG’s interlude on Ready to Die of him receiving oral sex was real audio of him receiving oral sex in the recording studio.
  19. In 2007, a Bosnian married couple found out that they had been cheating on one another in an online chatroom… with each other.
  20. In Oklahoma, it’s actually illegal to take a bite out of another person’s hamburger.

I guess if you’ve learned something or had a good chuckle that means writers block isn’t all that bad, right?

Enjoy your day folks!

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10 Reasons To Love The Job You Hate!

As I sit here searching through job site upon job site I have this lingering thought in the back of my mind; “man I would love to be back at work!” Any work as well, I mean seriously I never thought I would say this but man do I miss having a job! The thing is I complained a hell of a lot about it when I had it, but what a necessity it really is! So I’ve decided to compline a few reasons for you guys and girls who are in a job at the moment that you may find yourself disliking however you secretly need to learn to love. Hopefully these may change your mind a little, enjoy!

  1. That monthly pay check!…The thing I miss most was spending a ton of money on clothes, food and useless metal only to not need to worry about it due to being paid the following day. I could look at my bank balance the next morning and see that it was magically there again! Priceless.
  2. Actually having something to do. I’m so bored at home, after blogging and keeping myself entertained there’s only so much left to do. The internet gets boring after a while and you realise the TV’s utter trash!
  3. Seeing co-workers. In my last job I had good relationships with all my co-workers; I miss making the small jokes with them at lunch times, or just generally complaining about pointless shit.
  4. You gain a hell of a lot more experience and memories at work than you do at home! This one explains itself really; I had so many opportunities come my way in my previous job that they’ve really helped me develop into the person I am today. Not having that job I think I would be a person living within a shell!
  5. Job hunting sucks! I mean it really sucks.
  6. Not needing to dress up in a formal suit every time you get an interview. In my old job I had this terrible looking uniform but believe me it was a lot easier to chuck on that rather than a full blown suit!
  7. Being able to say you’re doing the job you do for the money, not making something up and saying you have a burning interest and desire to work within a certain company. I’ve had my fair share of interviews since I left school (roughly 15) so I’ve experienced the ones where you need to research the company and the ones where you can bullshit your way through, it can be mentally draining at times but you can’t just tell them straight up I need the money, believe me it won’t work! You only get to do that once you’ve landed the job.
  8. Laughing at customers. Oh how I miss that! It’s the little things they would do, not their appearance or anything like that but just the little quirks that we would recognise such as tripping up or doing something they shouldn’t.
  9. Being able to run to the closest shop and not worry about what you’re wearing. This one seems silly but hear me out; my closest shops are good 10 minute walk from my house whereas when I was in employment they were about a 30 second walk! Now, I’m not the most enthusiastic person in the world so when I’m hungry I can’t get my body in the mood to face that 10 minute walk whereas when I was employed I could literally purchase a buffet of items. Good thing there’s Domino’s folks!
  10. Last but not least, interacting with people. That’s what I feel life’s all about! I can’t stand not interacting or meeting new people, it’s just so boring! Sure, it’s nice to talk to friends online but there’s something more exciting about meeting new friends in the ‘real’ world so to speak!

There we are, the top 10 reasons to love the job you hate! I really can’t wait to get back into employment now! I’ve had multiple interviews over the past few weeks and so far no luck. It’s nice because I have some money saved up therefore I’m not broke and can still enjoy nights out however there’s something about not working I just can’t deal with. It’s so boring not earning money or just having a routine, sure I’ve got this blog and a few ideas for other ventures however it’s tough just sitting at home all day! So, enjoy the job you hate folks, it could be much worse I guess, does that contradict this whole post? I think it does.

Enjoy your day!

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“I’m Fine”

As of late I’ve been getting into a lot of poetry and spoken word stuff, there’s something rather therapeutic about it. In all honesty I’ve actually got a few videos recorded just to test the water with it, I mean it’s all easy to write it out on here but to actually perform it is another level. Not that I’m knocking anyone who doesn’t record their stuff and just writes because they love to, that’s a skill in itself! But in my eyes, I just want to progress a bit further with my stuff, so be expecting a few videos in due course folks! This piece I wrote over a few nights, I was feeling quite stressed and out of sorts and that’s when my mind starts to wander. This is what I produced, enjoy!

I’m fine.

These two words have just rolled from the tongue of the female who’s found out she’s pregnant,

These two words are said from the teenage girl in an abusive relationship all because she needs to be taught a ‘lesson’

These two words come from the son, who can’t take the bullying at school anymore,

These two words drop from my tongue because I’m lost and feeling sore.

See being fine is a code word that’s fluent throughout our ever changing society,

Being fine really means your lost and crying inside fearfully and quietly,

Being fine isn’t okay, yet we say it with a smile and put on a brave face,

Truth is I’m amazed that being fine causes so much pain.

As I sit here, stressing about my situation and my mental demons,

Being fines my personal state as I’m dealing with my inner feelings.

See, girls have got my head messing and I find myself job hunting yet again,

You ask me how I’m feeling today. I’m fine I still tell them.

But you really want me to unleash my darkest of fears and tell you how I feel deep down inside?

I’m crumbling, I’m struggling I’m losing all sense of pride.

Times moving on yet I’m still stuck here lost within this rut

I found myself praying to God the other day, I’m down on my luck.

I’m suffering and my heads feeling perplexed as I’m in a battle holding back the tears,

Truth is I’m sick of it all and I have been for years.

Money troubles, no love for me as we speak,

Life itself has taken and sealed me in a warmth of deceit

Yet there isn’t a receipt.

I can’t return this pain and suffering that I’m feeling,

I’m bruised bashed and broken my mental state needs plenty of healing.

Then you get the people, who question your troubles and compare it to your financial or living situation,

There’s worse off people than you, why are you still complaining?

Truth is I’m at breaking point and the strings are beginning to snap,

I may be better off than the man down the road but that don’t mean I can’t have problems like that.

I sleep it off for the morning thinking my state of mind will deceive me to become a more positive person,

My minds groggy and foggy the pains still lurching.

I’m here I’m speaking out these words to anyone who’s feeling just “fine”

You got a friend in me, anytime.

That wraps this on up folks! It was a bit of a sad post I guess however I never wanted it to feel that way! It’s just my form of expression and a way of testing the water to see how others respond!

Enjoy your day!

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What Are Your Bad Habits?

Bad habits, c’mon folks we all have them! If you’re unsure as to what a ‘bad-habit’ actually is it’s a negative behaviour pattern that we unconsciously tend to do. I’m not going to lie, as of late I’ve been a little bit stressed out and these bad habits are coming to light, I very rarely bite my nails but with the job hunting going on and all other stuff around me I’ve found myself doing it far too much! It’s made me wonder, what other bad habits I have…

  1. Like I said nail biting, I’ve been terrible for that! My nails look ridiculous.
  2. Eating stupendous amounts of chocolate, then worrying about being fat.
  3. Spending far too much time on the internet, especially here.
  4. Internet shopping, I’m definitely addicted! I’ve recently brought about 4 pairs of shoes within the last few days.
  5. Knowing there’s food in the house but being too lazy to actually make something, then saying “there’s nothing to eat.”
  6. Skipping lunch, I have no idea why I do this however I tend to just miss it and then pig out in the evening. It’s definitely not healthy!
  7. Getting caught up in “funny dog compilations” on YouTube.
  8. Complaining at the little things. “Who’s not shut the door?”
  9. Leaving the washing up for someone else. Sorry, not sorry.
  10. Finding out information on Wikipedia.
  11. Using Yahoo answers to back up that Wiki answer!
  12. Browsing Imgur, I spend a silly amount of time on that website.
  13. Feeding my dog chocolate, I will be the main person responsible for his death. Sorry Dexter.
  14. Being too conscious about my looks. I love to look in the mirror; does that make me a bad person?
  15. Biting my lips.

A nice and simple one for Friday guys! What are your bad habits?

Enjoy your day!

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Photographs That Changed The World! (Part 4)

There’s no real description for this one, you guys know the score!

The Russian Soldier And The Abandoned Piano – I tried to find where this photo originates and who actually captured it however I had no luck. This photo really captures a beauty between man and nature, it presents a sense of destruction throughout the world yet there’s something so peaceful about it. It’s tough to explain why it catches my attention but it’s so obscure that it just hits you.

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The Hindenburg Disaster - This one’s such a historical photo, captured on the 6th of May in 1937 it details the German airship catching fire whilst trying to attempt to dock with the mooring mast. From what I’ve gathered the incident itself actually was one of the main reasons they stopped carrying passengers in the airships. A truly tragic event.

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The Corpse Of Che Guevara - If you’re unsure on whom this man is, he’s been described as a revolutionary, author and guerrilla leader. From people who I’ve met there’s a few mixed ideas surrounding his methods to revolution, I’m not going to tell you what to believe as I don’t want to cause a stir, it’s best for you to do your own research on the man. In my eyes he was very influential throughout the world, it’s best to just Google his name and read up about him.

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Concentration Camp Scratches - This one’s truly horrifying, I can’t find an original photographer for this but it’s just heart-breaking. It shows how terrible the war actually was, I can’t even image let alone picture the harsh conditions back then. It really hits me with what I have today.

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President Bush Learns About The 9/11 Attacks – I don’t get how you could stay so calm, I understand he’s in a room filled with children but if that was me I would’ve been straight out of there. It’s such a terrible event that in my eyes changed the world. I still remember where I was and what I was doing when I learned of the attacks, I was still quite young but gosh it was scary. It’s such a tragedy things like this still can happen.

A September 11, 2001 file photo shows U.S. President Bush listening to White House Chief of Staff

Flower Girl - One of the bravest things I think I’ve definitely seen! Captured by Marc Riboud in 1967 it’s one of the most iconic photo’s in the world, that’s no over exaggeration either. The photo was taken in Washington DC where anti-war activists gathered at the Pentagon, a young lady (aged 17) named Jan Rose Kasmir presented to one of the soldiers a simple flower. The act of this gesture is rather touching; it just represents the beauty of life, truly astonishing.

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Earth – The best way to sum this one up is simply stunning. The photo was taken by Michael Collins and it’s funny because he’s the only human that actually isn’t in the photo itself, it’s just so peaceful. There was a description I read up on and it went a little like this; “matter can’t be created or destroyed therefore everyone who’s ever existed dead or alive is actually in this photo.” I really wish I could remember where I found it so I can give credit!Michael Col

The Human Zoo’s (this one’s pretty shocking) - This one was really suprising for me, it’s quite heart breaking. The photos show the Selknam natives travelling to Europe to be shown within the human zoo’s. Just think about that sentence for a minute, the fact there was even a thing such as human zoos is so terrible. The Selknam were one of the last aboriginal groups in South America.

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I found the human zoos image on http://rarehistoricalphotos.com/

Truly shocking.

Other notable photographs without the long description! 

Circus Hippo Pulling a Cart – 1924.
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Baby Cages – 1937.
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Suntan Vending Machine – 1949.
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Mushroom Cloud – 1953.
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Burger Flipper – 1938. Credits in the bottom left, from what I can make out it’s by – Jordan J Lloyd.
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Whites Only Playground – 1956.
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The Great Earthquake – 1906.
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The Great Manta – 1933.
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Manhattan Bridge – 1908.
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Hitler Inspecting The Gustav Railway Gun – ?
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Titanic Hull Propeller Dry Dock -1912.
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San Francisco Great Earthquake -1906.
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That’s all for today folks!

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Why Television Confuses Me!

Okay, I’ll admit it. I’m a lazy human being, but aren’t we all? I’m going to confess to you guys and girls there’s a time in the day when I just love to pig out in front of the sofa and gorge on stupendous amounts of junk food and engross myself within Netflix. I mean I’ve been getting through a fair few series on Netflix (the most beautiful existence in television history) however whilst looking back on these fragrant TV shows I’ve noticed something, none of them represent true life. They always seem to fabricate their surroundings and over-exaggerate (much like this blog) all the small things. Television is a lie. *it’s better to read that sentence in a crazy guys preaching on the pavement voice* it sounded far cooler in my head.

Here are my reasoning’s:

  1. The good guy always gets the girl. How very wrong is that?
  2. Guns have unlimited ammo. Especially in shows like The Walking Dead and 24.
  3. The bad guys have terrible aim and always miss even though they’ve shot at least 30 bullets.
  4. It always rains in the graveyards, spooky stuff.
  5. No one really sneezes. Think about it, you never ever see anyone sneezing!
  6. Bins are nice to always jump into at vast heights.
  7. Hardly any dirty cars, they’re always looking slick.
  8. Food in restaurants is always delivered quickly; yeah I’m pretty impatient if I’m hungry.
  9. People who work in offices love their jobs.
  10. Strangers love to do flash-mob dancing. Please stop it, yeah I’m a downer on your day, deal with it.
  11. Kissing in a full blown argument solves the problem.
  12. Advertising in actual television is so in your face.
  13. You can be a nasty so and so and females will come running at you if you’re attractive, please tell me this isn’t true ladies.
  14. Everyone wakes up with perfect hair and makeup. I would actual pay for that to be reality, well maybe just the hair bit.
  15. A lot of the time TV likes to show non married couples having a better sex life. I can’t speak on this personally however that’s the perception from TV.

As you can see TV is a lie, yet we all sit round it as a family in our household. I guess it’s something we’ve grew up with and I wouldn’t change that for the world, I love TV. Is that sad?

Enjoy your day!

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Nostalgic Music From The 90’s & Early 2000’s. Part 1.

Everyone who reads my blog knows I’m a sucker for nostalgia, especially nostalgic music! You know the one’s “oh yeah I remember that song! I haven’t heard that in years, it brings back so many memories!” well I had that earlier on today.

I guess you want to know what I was listening to; it would be rude not to share. Well I heard Black Eyed Pea’s – Where Is the Love and oh my. It’s a timeless classic, who would’ve thought it was 11 years ago! I think I got my math right, I’m sure it was 03 when it was released. It got me thinking, what else have I forgot about?

So here’s my list for you all to dwell on. Go back in time and remember those terrible haircuts, odd clothes and more importantly the memories you and your friends made. Enjoy!

Please share the ones you can remember also! I would love to hear some extras.

  1. Avril Lavigne – Sk8r Boy.
  2. Sum 41 – Fat Lip.
  3. Limp Bizkit – Rollin’.
  4. Electric Six – Gay Bar.
  5. Blink 182 – All The Small Things.
  6. Crazy Town – Butterfly.
  7. Wheatus – Teenage Dirtbag.
  8. OPM – Heaven Is A Halfpipe.
  9. Bloodhound Gang – The Bad Touch.
  10. Outkast – Mrs Jackson.
  11. Eiffel 65 – Blue. (da ba dee)
  12. Black Eyed Pea’s – Where Is The Love?
  13. The Cardigans – Lovefall. (Everyone knows that one but no one knew the name)
  14. Aqua – Barbie Girl.
  15. Haddaway – What Is Love?
  16. Kelly Clarkson – Since You’ve Been Gone.
  17. Maroon 5 – This Love.
  18. Outkast – Hey Ya!
  19. 50 Cent – In Da Club. (Everything in my body disagrees with that spelling)
  20. Rihanna – S.O.S.
  21. Green Day – Boulevard Of Broken Dreams.
  22. Justin Timberlake – Cry Me A River.
  23. Shaggy – Angel.
  24. Sean Paul – Get Busy.
  25. Sean Kingston – Beautiful Girls.
  26. R-Kelly – Ignition.
  27. Sean Paul – Temperature.
  28. Akon – Lonely.
  29. Fray – How To Save A Life.
  30. Mario – Let Me love you.
  31. Nelly & Kelly – Dilemma.
  32. Nickelback – How You Remind Me.
  33. Linkin Park – In the End.
  34. Vanessa Carlton – A Thousand Miles.
  35. 3 Doors Down – When I’m Gone.
  36. Eminem – Lose Yourself.
  37. The Game – Hate It Or Love It.
  38. Jay-Z – Hard Knock Life.
  39. Dre – Forgot About Dre.
  40. Kylie Minogue – Can’t Get You Outta My Head.
  41. The White Stripes – Seven Nation Army.
  42. Jay-Z – 99 Problems.
  43. Gnarls Barkley – Crazy.
  44. Daft Punk – One More Time.
  45. Baha Men – Who Let the Dogs Out.
  46. Kelis – Milkshake.
  47. Britney Spears – Hit Me Baby One More Time.
  48. Five – Keep On Moving.
  49. Blue – One Love.
  50. Gorillaz – Feel Good.

There’s so many more! This is just part 1. Be prepared ladies and gents!

My New Job!…Yeah, About That.

For those of you that don’t know me, I shall introduce myself. As of late I’ve had a huge influx of new readers which is so awesome, so hello to all of you! I really hope you have a high tendency to tolerate commas and over-exaggeration! As of recent weeks or I should say months I’ve blogged and been blogging about disliking my job situation, I was in retail for roughly 2 and a half years and I completely hated it. Until one day when my manager was (to put this bluntly) being “ass-y” with me I plucked up the courage to tell him I quit. I told everyone on here and to tell the truth it made me a much happier person. I applied for this dream job; Ralph Lauren in a clothing store, so essentially I would have been working on that department, I mean that’s a huge step up from what I was used to doing! Well, it all went a bit downhill…

Essentially I was offered this job and received all the training dates and all that other jazz that comes with it. It’s fine, it’s what I expected. My first training day; I’m all suited up, aftershave at the ready and I’m feeling good. I feel I should note the job required me to wear a suit! I wasn’t doing that for fun. Anyway, I get there pretty early and meet and greet the others; all were welcoming and friendly. To tell you the truth it was a really nice work environment. Anyway, we start with the training day and it’s the usual stuff; customer service, health and safety blah, blah, blah. I’ve heard this a million times before. 

The day proceeds on with role playing different situations and it’s just dragging. I seriously hate role playing within the workplace, in my personal opinion it doesn’t benefit anyone, well it doesn’t for me. It just made everything a tad awkward I felt. This day is half way through and we’re seriously going over the same stuff; retail, about the brands, about the store and health and safety. I just wanted to get on that shop floor and sell! After they finish up we were told we had another training session the next day and that it would be more practical stuff. I couldn’t wait!

I feel I should mention, I hadn’t got my salary or hours at this point, it was rather disorganised. My fingers were crossed though.

So I go home and rest up for the evening and prepare myself for the next day. Same routine; suit, aftershave you know the score. As I arrive I say my “hello’s” and “how are you’s?” yet I had this nagging feeling that something wasn’t right. I wasn’t wrong. The day proceeds with the over capping of yesterday, pointless. Then we go into till training, however it was till training in a room with no real structure. It was just bits and pieces of the tills. I mean c’mon! Show us on the shop floor and give plenty of examples. You could tell they were winging it. The day went on with some more retail stuff that just took far too long but we eventually got there! Practical time!

Another thing I do need to mention I applied for Ralph Lauren, a specific brand department. So I expected to be working on Ralph Lauren.

Where did they tell me to work? Suits. 

First off I didn’t apply for that section at all nor do I have any passion or interest in working there. Second of all there was absolutely no structure, no one to shadow off and no real training for the shop floor. It was as if they’ve plucked me from the streets and expected me to work there. I have no previous experience in the clothing sector therefore I expected some help. The training we went through had nothing to do with what was going on with the shop floor. It was all useless and unneeded information. 

So there I am, in the suit section with not a clue what to do. No help what so ever from staff. I made myself busy for the last part of the day with tidying and folding; which I was terrible at as they have a specific way to do it, which I wasn’t shown. After the day I went to find out what went on with my application and they said it was for a customer service position which I presumed as Ralph Lauren as the online job form stated Ralph Lauren. They proceeded to tell me it was a general position they offered me. Very un-clear. I quit earlier on this morning as I couldn’t take having no help and I wasn’t prepared to work somewhere I have no interest in. 

Here I am, once again. Jobless. 

If I’m being completely honest I’m not feeling particularly down about it in any way. I believe because it was such a bad experience, me leaving was actually the right thing to do. I guess the job hunt begins once again.

Enjoy your day folks!

:)

If you get the chance check out my previous post! I very rarely do this however this one took me ages and I want to show it off to the world! http://routinedreamer.com/2014/10/03/the-abcs-of-life/

The ABC’s Of Life.

This one kept me up for hours upon end; I’ve lost days of sleep due to this one! At the time I thought this was a good idea, oh how wrong was I? This one absolutely drained me folks! I used to do this thing when I was younger where I would create stories using the ABC’s. But, yes there’s a but, each line has to be created using the same letter. So the first line has all A’s then the second has all B’s and so on. It’s really tough but it’s so good for learning new words.  I wanted to get back to doing this but I forgot how hard it really was, there’s a small story in there but it’s nothing to deep. It’s my first time in a good 3 years doing this! The worst part was I decided to make it rhyme, I’m so glad this one is over now! Everyone should definitely give this a try, it’s so enjoyable and I wasted hours doing this, be warned though it does affect you mentally! Enjoy

Announcement, announcement. Armageddon’s abruptly approaching,

Beautiful but bewildered beasts become bespoken,

Calm coalitions create confrontation coinciding choking.

Announcing time is ending that Armageddon is approaching.

All animals e.g. the beasts are becoming rare.

People coincide with each other to stop confrontation with the world ending.

Essentially I was trying to get across the point that if the world was ending the surroundings we see would become bespoke, that they would start to become non-existent. That last line was the toughest! I was trying to get the point that people who have coalitions and are let’s say ‘friends’ have confrontations with each other due to the world coming to an end, thus ending in each other fighting and choking. First part was a nightmare, I won’t lie. It gets betters!

Alas, allegiances and alliances attack at activism,

Bland billionaires building bridges but begin bidding,

Controlled controversy creates companies coldly chilling.

Agencies and friends start attacking at the big companies for change.

Billionaires who own these companies begin building bridges to their lifestyles bid for dominance.

This creates controversy between billionaires and companies starting to get stale with each other and begin to kill (This was meant to be a play on words, chilling – killing)

These 3 lines were to get across the point there’s no social status now, everyone is equal. No matter what financial figures you have sure you may build bridges to survive however it doesn’t matter as it will all come down with how we react as humans thus chillingly killing others. Almost as if we’re our own demise.

All ashamed and all afraid,

Beings brutally begin bashing brains,

Cold children coerced carrying chains.

As humans we are all afraid and ashamed with what we’ve done.

Looking back on us fighting with one another.

How we forgot all humanity and children lost their youth building bridges for the billionaires for survival.

These 3 were to show the world how painful life is, what we do when were desperate for help. It’s really how some days my mind perceives the world, sure it’s not apocalyptic yet when you think of these 3rd world countries where there’s still dirty water yet we live in a life of luxury almost. It makes you think.

All affection aesthetic and aged,

Buried beauty behind bloody blame,

Conquered cleanliness covers charcoaled charred change.

All the love we once held for one another has disappeared and aged with time.

The girl or male you thought was beautiful committed crimes buried in a deep blame.

Conquering the pain to start over again and bring change.

This one was to bring out forgiveness in one another. No matter what they’ve done to survive you need to talk about it, even if you do blame them for something going wrong. Why live with resentment, sometimes it’s better to get it off your chest and make way for change,

Afterlife aggressively attaches among aimless adolescents,

Bitching bully’s becoming brutally benevolent,

Calmly cooling cocky cretins.

The thought of death attaches to the weak and aimless adults.

Bully’s become kind, they see their ways of wrong and make change, the billionaires really.

Finally, cocky cretins become more calm and relaxed.

This one is similar to the previous; really it’s just about change within the human spirit. You know at school you can tell who the bullies are but then a few years after school some have changed their ways. That’s essentially what I was trying to get across, how some people who’ve been nasty in their previous life have the ability to now change.

All,

Beings,

Conquered.

That’s that folks! Nothing too special but it’s something a bit different I guess! I’m welcome to your suggestions if there’s something you wish to add, please drop a comment! Or give it a go for yourself; it’s great for learning new words!

Enjoy your day!

:)

My Short Story, Worth A Try.

Birth.

“Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.”

The shell dropped, the sound resonated throughout the house. The gasps of desperation sucked into the mouths of the wicked. The table’s guests blankly stared at one another, pondering, wondering. Then I heard it, a scream only born within the souls of the lost. A scream lost between life and death, sanity and insanity.

I jumped out of my chair, we all did. The house fell faint; my surroundings were meshed into a distraught Illusion. As we paced to his bedroom my legs fell heavy. My heart sank fearing the worst. I shared a stare to my mother I will never forget, her eyes sinking into the depths of despair. She knew, I knew. Today was the day a mother would lose her son, the day the unborn child would grow up without a father figure.

Celebration, what celebration?

We gathered earlier in the day to celebrate the joyous event we cherish as life. A child were to be born, a soul to be birthed a life to be lived. Danny, my brother excused himself from the table. He was surrounded with love, excitement. His girlfriend had a face of many masks. Don’t we all? She was troubled, she knew something wasn’t right. They were so young.

Time passed no sign of Danny, that’s when we heard it. It was a life taken in the click of my growing fingers, a second to demolish an existence but a second to build one.

As I approached his room my bones crushed and cracked with the ongoing grief pent up inside my ever aching body. I opened the door. If nightmares existed outside our deepest of fantasies, this was it. It’s funny to think how dreams can be broken with the pull of a trigger, life ends. His body lay emotionless, stiff with blood drenched into the carpet. His eyes were cold; he was walking with the grim reaper on a trail of depression. A motionless gasp of breath from my family, I dropped to the ground.

I blocked out the whaling of the two families rejoicing in the tragedy that’s called death I saw his note ‘To my son, read once you’re 18.’ It was grasped with blood ridden fists; I blocked the anguish from my mental state and began to read.

“Dear son,

You may never forgive my actions for my soul feels lifeless at this moment in time, I’m lost. Scared. I’ve given up the fight, there’s no one I can turn to. May your life be filled with joy and pleasure for mine was a light slowly walking its last legs. Never be afraid like I was, were. I’m a coward for leaving this world and travelling to the next. Respect your family, live the life you love and love the life you live.

To my dearest relatives,

I’m sorry.

A light too dim and a soul to bright.

A Letter. A Text.

First off I would just like to point out this one’s going to be short and simple today, but it’s one you definitely want to get involved in!

My question to all of you reading this, if you could write a letter to anyone in the world, dead or alive; who would it be? Nobody writes letters anymore; it’s something that’s perceived as ‘ancient’ in our modern society however in my eyes letters are far more than ‘ancient’ they’re romantic and spontaneous. We tend to get caught up in the world of texting and we do it far too often, we look at our Facebook far too often; it’s nice sometimes to take it back to basics and just be real with one another.

There’s nothing worse than when I’m with someone in a deep conversation and they pull out their phone to check their twitter feed! It’s so frustrating. That’s why a letter would be perfect as it’s straight to the point; it’s a dose of love. It’s something you can treasure and not accidently delete!

It’s obviously due to the high quantity and quality of technology nowadays it’s pointless to pen out a letter. Maybe the true question I should be asking then is if you could send a text to anyone, who would it be?

This can be for someone in the future or someone who’s done wrong in the past, really anyone. Mine’s easy, I’ve had this person in mind for ages.

Myself. Well, maybe for my future kids to reference as well. It seems silly I know but hear me out!

I’m young, 18. My views and ideas revolving around this ever changing world are guaranteed to develop over time therefore it would be nice to write out to my future 50 year old self the views I have on our modern times, at 18. Maybe I would give myself a good chuckle, maybe I would think I was silly and reckless at the time or maybe I would think I were smart, who knows?

In terms to my future children I would love to write a letter to them. I would detail about all the mistakes I’ve made and how I’ve overcome them, how not to be scared to reach for what they want. Most of all to make sure they’re happy. Just to write to them from my teenage perspective or even my older perspective let’s say 30 just what I’ve gone through, how I’ve overcome the problems. To treat and respect others how they wish to be treated and enjoy this precious life we’ve been given.

A tad deep for a Wednesday afternoon but it’s a nice little thought to get everyone involved!

Who would you write a letter to?

Enjoy your day!

:)

Our English Language; Idioms…Piece Of Cake!

Idiom’s – a group of words established by usage as having a meaning not deducible from those of the individual words (e.g. over the moonsee the light ). In other words, utter bull! Let’s take a look at a few;

  • Piece of cake- One of the most commonly used idioms throughout the world, this one travels off the lips of all ages more often than not used to pretend you can do something. I used this one as a child all the time and rather embarrassingly in my teenage life, an example;

“Oh, I bet you can’t eat this cake”

“Pffft please, that’s a piece of cake

Comedian of the year goes to…We’ve all done it folks; you know you’ve done it as well, don’t hide in shame! Piece of cake, beautiful.

  • Back to the drawing board- My ideas tend to fail more often than not; I like to start a series on this blog however I tend to drop them off before they’ve even started. I remember having a Netflix series a few months ago but only got around 3 blogs out of that and then dropped it. I remember the exact words I said to my friends when discussing ideas; yes you’ve guessed it, “back to the drawing board.”
  • Method to my madness- Does that really work though? I mean, really? It’s something someone insane would say…That’s why I say it. Shh don’t tell. I think this one’s my favourite of the bunch though, there’s something a bit zesty about it. It has this cheekiness to it. God look at me, talking about words as if they’re cheeky; back to the drawing board. (He shoots, he scores!)
  • Costs an arm and a leg- C’mon, are you serious with this one? I really can’t understand how we’ve let this one creep into our daily dialect. Whoever came up with this had either a really funny sense of humour or unfortunately lost an arm and a leg!
  • Elvis has left the building- Can people stop using this one, please. It sounds so ‘dad-ish’ if you know what I mean. You know those terrible dad jokes you get told, it’s just one of those! Rubbish! If you don’t know what it means it’s just another way of saying the shows over, it’s come to an end. It’s a bit morbid.
  • Speak of the devil- I use this one far too often, people tend to sneak up on me too much! One of the more common ones in our lingo, it essentially means someone appears after you have finished or are still talking about them. Let’s hope you’ve not been bad-mouthing someone!
  • Let the cat out of the bag- How horrible does that sound? Poor old cat. I’ve got no puns for this one, my funny tank’s running dry. If you’ve not heard of this one it just means; sharing concealed information.
  • Kill two birds with one stone- What’s more worse? Trapping a cat in a bag or killing two birds with a stone? When I hear this I can only think about the 7/10 split on bowling, is that bad? If you’re unsure what this one means it’s just accomplishing two things at the same time. Does eating and watching TV count?
  • Hit the nail on the head- Opposed to hitting it on my finger, does what it says on the tin. Doing or saying something exactly right for that specific situation.
  • Don’t give up your day job- This one’s so nasty, I feel there’s a certain harshness towards it. It cuts deep. Basically telling someone to give up their entire dreams and go back to living a life they don’t want to, it’s horrible in my opinion!

Other notable idioms!

  1. Every cloud has a silver lining – Being optimistic.
  2. Can’t judge a book by its cover – Not to judge someone on how they look.
  3. Hit the books – To go study, not literally hit them!
  4. Crying over spilled milk – Looking back on the past.
  5. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket – Keeping multiple avenues open.
  6. Feeling under the weather – Feeling ill, don’t ask me how.
  7. In the heat of the moment – Doing something overwhelming in the present situation.
  8. Miss the boat – Missing your last chance to do something.
  9. On the ball – Understanding something well.
  10. Pull the wool over someone’s eyes – Deceiving someone.
  11. Take it with a grain of salt – Not to take what someone says too seriously.
  12. Whole nine yards – All of something.
  13. Make a long story short – Coming to the point of it.
  14. Keep something at bay- To keep something away, distancing yourself from it.
  15. Beat around the bush – Avoiding the topic you need to be talking about.

There we have it, a few of my favourite idioms! What a piece of cake.

Enjoy your day!

:)

Do you Believe In Luck?

Luck is an illusion. It’s a concept perceived to trick the mind of the outcome with every decision surrounding our very existence. It is a probability of chance that makes us ponder whether outside events can or cannot control our ever changing lives. Luck is misperceived as a concept of state to make you feel as if there is something else in control of your life, the direction its heading and whether it will go your way or not.

The truth is luck doesn’t exist. We like to trick ourselves into thinking it exists to push the blame onto something else or if it were to go your way, you just think its luck. In reality, it’s all down to you. I’m not saying you create your own luck but what I am saying is you create your own energy. You create your own life, your destiny, your future, it’s all on you.

Here’s a perfect example, I’m going to take one form my personal life; I was feeling down with work (negative energy) my manager was pissing me off (negative energy) and I felt as if I didn’t know where to go in life (negative energy) I had all this negative energy pent up inside of me the only outcome was ever going to be negative. Let’s face it, if you’re constantly surrounding yourself with horrid thoughts, with ideas of not doing anything with life such as myself you’re only going to get negativity come back.

There I was waiting for luck…

It obviously didn’t turn up. I was the one that needed to change it. I couldn’t rely on an outside interference or sit around and wait for my life to get better; it just doesn’t work like that. It all changed when I started doing something about it; quit my job (positive energy) didn’t have to see my manager again (positive energy) had the time to find myself and where I wanted to go (positive energy) as you can see it all is on the up. You feel happier within yourself because you aren’t feeding off negativity. I landed my dream job the other day, I haven’t blogged about it yet but it’s perfect for me and I couldn’t be happier, I didn’t land it through this magical thing called ‘luck’ oh god no. I landed it from perseverance, working hard and being true/positive to myself. If I was still working in my negative situation I can guarantee you I wouldn’t have landed it because my mind wasn’t in the right place. It’s all about being true to you, don’t ever forget that.

I guess you could say luck is just positive and negative energy then?

In a way this swings in roundabouts, you could argue my theory with people winning on the lottery or taking home a nice win from a casino. If you’re positive at a casino it still may not be the outcome you want. With places such as casino’s and things where probability is in a way randomised as to where you cannot predict the outcome this energy has no effect at all. If your friend wins the lottery you’re going to tell them they are ‘lucky’ however it’s just a random act of probability that they’ve won. It isn’t luck at all, if you think of all the people who play the lottery and lose you can’t tell them there are unlucky as it’s a randomised game. They know the chances of winning and they know the chances of losing. There’s no luck or skill involved, it’s just a pick of the draw sort of thing. Hopefully I’m making some sense here.

I guess the whole point of this blog was really because I only came to the understanding there is no such thing as luck the other day. I went my whole 18 years thinking ‘oh this persons lucky’ or because I didn’t win something I was unlucky. Whenever I had this negative outlook towards life it would always be because I thought I was unlucky, in reality I was just overcrowded with negative thoughts that the only outcome to anything could be negative. It was until I changed my thoughts to being positive and really strived for change then I started to see life in a happier light. No luck, no probability it was just down to me making a change and going for something I wanted. Blocking out all negative thought and feelings and feeling positive about myself, it’s odd how you can trick your mind into being relaxed within a certain ‘state’ but it can make the difference between keeping a job you hate and landing a job you love.

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My Dog And Attractive Females!

What a nightmare.

All these events happened within 24 hours, oh yeah I’m talking Jack Bauer style folks! Okay, maybe I didn’t save the world or rush around the city with the government causing a ruckus. It’s much better than that. Don’t get me wrong, it’s an embarrassing story, however it’s one I feel I need to share. Sit back and enjoy whilst you all laugh at my pain!

The following events take place between yesterday at 18:00-19:00; dun dun, dun dun. Yeah that was my pathetic attempt to re-create the actual theme of 24, I’m sorry. On a serious note this isn’t my finest moment

I’ve left you in suspense far too long I will start telling the story now. Well, what happened was it was 18:00 last night, after my nightmare with the attractive female on the train yesterday I figured my luck was all gone, it’s gushed down the stream of dreams until….

This lovely women walks past me yesterday walking her dog. Oh my, she was perfect. I’m over exaggerating again, not that she wasn’t perfect but burgh you know what I mean; she was attractive! Phew *wipes sweat from forehead* anyway as I was walking my terror of a dog he decides to get a bit rowdy, he starts chirping up. He obviously likes this other dog; I should add she was across the street from me. Perfect opportunity right, especially after my disaster at the train station.

I keep walking and so does she, a few glances here and there and then eventually a smile. Me being the smooth operator (totally in my mind anyway) decide to ask if she wants to walk together and to my surprise she says yes. She adds her stops nearly up however I figure I have plenty of time to build some rapport and get at least a name and maybe, just maybe a telephone number.

So as I cross the road slowly glancing into my dogs eyes with a look of *don’t mess this up otherwise we’re through* I introduce myself, she tells me about herself as well however this is where it all goes wrong.

My dog, what can I say about my terror of a dog. I’m pretty sure he is just a demon in disguise as fur; honestly this boy is a rowdy, psychotic devil. At home he’s the sweet yet mischievous dog but when we’re out it’s almost as if he’s a whole different dog, it’s unbelievable.

Anyway whilst walking with this attractive female my dog decides he needs to go to the loo, not a wee either oh god no, of all the times! I’m with a female and he decides he needs to take a poo! Darn dog, she didn’t mind (I hope) because she has a dog herself, she knows the score. What’s worse though it was rather close to her leg, this demon spawn when to loo right next to this girls leg! That’s not even the worse bit!

After he’s decided he wanted to go to loo in that specific spot he then thinks it would be hilarious to attack the other dog! My worst nightmare. He starts barking at the dog for no reason, becoming a raving lunatic; running in circles, almost standing in his own poo! He ruined my chances! My one and only chance with this girl and what does my dog do? Has a poo next to her and tries to attack her dog! Little devil.

All this happened after a fantastic interview yesterday, after feeling like I was on top of the world my dog dropped me back to reality, I still love him though! In all honesty I’m not that fussed but it would have been nice to get a chance to converse with this female, that’s life I guess. Until next time!

Enjoy your day!

:)

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Why Does No One Talk Anymore? My Flirtatious Disaster.

Honestly, some people really need to lighten up a bit, I mean take a chill pill folks! I get that some people may be shy, scared or even frightened to talk to another human, I don’t blame them either it’s their fear, they’re scared to do so however people who aren’t scared of communication sociably really need to start doing it and doing it more!

I was sat on the train home, my confidence oozing after feeling as if I aced my interview, I’m a happy chappy at the moment! Well on the way home there’s this rather attractive girl getting on the same carriage as me, we look at each other and for once rather than an awkward stare back this girl actually gives me a smile, almost as if she approves of my carriage choice. It’s all looking up from here!

After that beautiful approval we both decide to take our seats, she sits on the left side and I sit on the right, both in talking distance. Before I begin to introduce myself she pulls out her phone! What, her phone! I’m thinking “oh no” at this point. I figure she might be just checking the time or responding to the text, I leave her as is for a few minutes.

Next things she’s now laughing, boom this is it. I have to say something here otherwise I will regret the decision not to! I chirp up with what I thought as an average opening line “you can’t be laughing on the train and keep it all to yourself, what’s so funny?” she responds “just a video” are you going to add some context or just drag this out like a riddle? Obviously I didn’t say that however I did think it if I’m being honest, so I respond “what’s the video?” she gives me this absolute gold “oh just a video my friend sent me” I mean c’mon! Give me a break Jesus!

After that I swiftly swivelled my head around to look out of the train and proceeded to watch out the window for the rest of my journey. Now I’m here, at home writing this blog, complaining we as humans have a lack of social interaction however in a sense I’m contradicting myself by chatting to you guys through my blog. You get the picture though; we spend far too much time on our phones. Just put them down and take a risk. It’s honestly disgusting the amount of people on that train who were sat next to each other staring blankly at their phones! I was sat next to an old lady on the journey up; I decided to get to know where she was going and what she was doing for the day. It’s little things such as interacting with another human that make life all that more enjoyable.

I just want to point out, if you’re on a train reading this, put your phone down afterwards. ;)

But seriously folks, talk to people more you may actually enjoy it! I wish to point out though there are people who are scared to interact with another human, hey, I definitely don’t blame you. Some of us can be real up tight (insert swear word here) so and so’s however you need to try break the shell every once in a while! Even if its small things such as talking to a cashier every now and then overtime you will find your confidence begins to grow, you get bolder to go out and just pluck a conversation from thin air and you know what, you will enjoy it! They key word is TRYING though! You need to try for this to succeed!

Hopefully you’ve picked up a few things from this and put them into play within your everyday lives!…In regard to the attractive female on the train she may have just not wanted to talk to me, each to their own I guess!

Enjoy your day folks!

:)

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Fear. (My Attempt At Poetry)

I knew what you were thinking. You were thinking “oh no, not him going on about breaking from your shell and trying something new. Needing to break the chains of 9-5 life and go for your dreams” in a way that’s all true however I’ve drowned you all a multitude of times with that stuff. It’s time to let you all breathe and relax. Heck, you may even get a laugh out of this one!

I love a bit of poetry; it’s something we can all learn from, we can interpret and most of all it’s something I enjoy. I’ve never really had the thought of ‘attempting’ it until now. I’m not sure how this all came about either, essentially it was a late night a few weeks ago and I just decided in my mind “you know what? I’m going to give poetry a try” and that was it really. There are people reading this thinking “NO, you can’t just get up and write poems, it takes years to write a good poem” so I hope this doesn’t offend anyone!…I don’t want it to come as if I’m tarnishing your passion, I just decided to give it a try, see what others think? What’s the worst that could happen? (A torrent of vile abuse?) I’m not fussed either way.

In all honesty I was just in one of them ‘moods’ where everything seems below average and you just feel as if you’re stuck, it’s not like I was feeling low or down let’s say however I just felt average. I wondered where my life was turning. Sometimes that makes me feel a little stressed and it was at this point where I decided to jot down a few lines, those lines turned into more and I guess that turned into a poem. In reality, this is how I felt that night.

I really hope I’m not giving off the impression I’m a depressive person to be around! I’m not! Honest, just to prove it you all here’s a little joke before we get a bit deep;

My uncle was crushed by a piano; his funeral was very low key. Waheey!

Not my joke, it’s by a guy named Stewart Francis. He’s this really awesome one liner comedian, definitely worth your time to check him out! I just realised I didn’t pick the perfect joke as it was actually rather morbid when you realise what it’s about. Yikes!

Any way let’s get onto it shall we?

“Timeless Fear”

I’m a terrified noun that lives within the happiest of humans,

I wait to strike when their time is lost and looming.

I’m on the horizon trapped in a cyclone of your thoughts,

I make you lost; intertwine your ambition with demonic claws.

I make you lose sleep; I rarely let you breathe,

Time’s running out. Now it’s just you and me.

You’re scared, frightened almost twisted and turning bitter,

Barriers are brought up; you’re lost in my demonic dinner.

Your dreams are my nutrition and your lack of motivation lets me sleep,

You’re trapped, stuck in a lust less love of lifeless defeat.

What’s this? You’re standing up and say you’re changing your ways,

Ha, I give that a week. No only a few days,

This is what you always do; this is what you always say,

I needed that laugh, get back to work otherwise you’ll be sent home without pay.

That’s me, I’m fear and I grow inside everyone,

I’m your only thought when the sea connects with the sun.

Go for your dreams, I dwell and bathe lavishly in your thoughts of being too scared,

Let’s face it, why do you care?

But what if they judge me? Laugh at my dreams,

What if they push me around and send me back downstream?

I’m too scared, back to the day job for me.

I tried it once to tell you the truth,

I’m lost, broken with a fear contributing to my attitude.

I stand up, I break the threshold, I’m not falling to these shallow depths,

I take a hold of my fear and grip it around the neck,

Time is obsolete with a perception of a devilish death.

Fear takes over time, ticking its last breath.

As I gasp for another tick I realise my dreams are fading,

The seconds have stopped, my dreams have dropped, I’m suffocating.

I’m in a choke hold with my thoughts yet the Devil tightens his grip,

My hearts dropped, I’m scared to make the trip.

Times limitless and my dreams have faded,

I regret my lifeless decisions for fear of judgmental stages.

I’m 70 now; my kids have grown continuing from where I left off,

Their dreams in the cracks of the pavements, we’re all just lost.

There we go! I really just want to point out that I just wanted to get across that time is obsolete when you’re dreaming, it’s very limited however when fear grips a hold of you and you decide to go against those dreams for fear of being ridiculed time is infinite as nothing will ever change.

What did you guys and girls think?

Enjoy your day!

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Hip-Hop’s Gems!

Right, okay I haven’t posted in a while; please still love me you guys. I do have to apologise for that!…After quitting my job the past few days have been rather ‘stressful’ to say the least therefore I just haven’t had time to sit down and crack out a blog post, I’ve currently got two interviews lined up so I’m feeling far more happier about my work life and that stress is starting to disappear which means I can sit down and write, I can write an enjoyable post not a half ass attempt at one because I feel I need to get it out. I figured if I was to write one after I quit, it would just be horrible because I’m forcing myself to write but now my life’s getting back together I feel happier, I’m in the mood to write. I’m happy! Woo

So what’s this blog post all about?

Essentially, everyone knows I love hip-hop. I ramble on about it all the time here! The truth is though no one in hip-hop anymore is grabbing my attention, there’s no more real lyricists within the main stream circle, the last lyricist that I can think of that had a buzz was Kendrick Lamar yet I don’t think he really got the push he deserved. His wordplay and intricate rhymes were phenomenal but he just didn’t get out there I felt. Now, more than ever hip-hop has this generic style that you hear over and over again. There’s no one that’s truly perfecting their craft anymore, it’s almost as if they’re in and out.

What’s the point of this post?

In reality I just want to share my love for music with you guys and girls but I really want to open up your musical avenues to expand to different areas and roads so to speak. These musicians have a buzz within their own right however may not have the buzz that Drake receives. These musicians find ways to combine their imagination with metaphors, verbs and this whole hearted passion to eventually conjure up this vivid imagery that is so powerful you are taken back and have to pause for a minute; these are the tracks that really hit you.

Let’s get down to it!

  • K-Rino – Grand Deception.This guy is seriously from another planet, you think I’m over exaggerating don’t you? Oh, far from it. It’s almost as if he’s swallowed a dictionary and is just recording these biblical scriptures for me and you, he’s so in touch with wordplay and vivid imagery it’s nice to hear someone who really loves what they do. Essentially this song details the corruption within this world such as the Illuminati and conspiracies revolving around them. It’s truly a phenomenal track and to tell you the truth I felt a little smarter after listening to it! Check out some of these lines, it’s rather gob smacking.

“You are a tool in the hidden hand that’s using you
Please don’t be delusional the rulers of this world practice confusing you
The people and the priest and the Imams
Have been jammed by government scams, mind systematically programmed
Blatant Black hatred and racism
The way they laced the whole world in nation with traces of Satanism
This place is a pagan prison, the Founding Fathers enslaving intentions
Were no different than Bush’s and Reagan visions”

Like I said previously my blog post just doesn’t do it justice, please check out the real song. Here’s the link! Don’t worry it’s not a virus – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5mSWLnJXY0

Some of his other notable songs;

Valley of decision. 

“I’m in a spiritual prison, but on this day I’ve arisen
To the vision of an internal god and Satan collision
The fight to win me took place within me
And whoever I submit it to would ultimately choose where they would send me
I stood motionless, approaching this comatose-ness with openness
Could only hope and wish for sanity when I awoke from this
I’m coping with the possibility of making the wrong choice
No reason to rejoice, I heard Satan speak in my own voice”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEcTNAdzPik

Solitary Confinement. 

“Minutes after I received my sentence
I was then sent to the threshold of a corridors entrance
Forced into a hellish existence
I wends from intense pain then commence to seek intense repentance
My hands served as a surveyor
With no light I’m sightless I stand beneath darkness third layer
Imprisoned as a punishment I was sieving of faith
In a place so desolate prayers can’t even escape
The reason I was here was never communicated clear
Two minutes in this place appeared like I had waited years
When the lights came on I was bathed and bladed tears
Cause the room had common dears all of my greatest fears”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5wWr5kml98

Trust me you will not be disappointed, if you’re are, sure you can blame me.

  • Immortal Technique – Dance with the Devil.One of the most touching songs I’ve listened to, I felt a bit sick after hearing it. That’s not a lie either, listen to it all the way and you will see why I felt like that. It’s hard to explain the song without giving away and real details, if I was to do so it would spoil it and I don’t want to do that. I guess I can summarise it for you, it’s essentially detailing the life of a guy choosing the wrong path and joining a gang and the things he has to do for that gang but the end though, man oh man, it’s truly un-explainable. You just have to listen to it!

“I once knew a nigga whose real name was William
His primary concern, was making a million
Being the illest hustler, that the world ever seen
He used to fuck movie stars and sniff coke in his dreams
A corrupted young mind, at the age of thirteen
Nigga never had a father and his mom was a fiend
She put the pipe down, but every year she was sober
Her sons heart simultaneously grew colder
He started hanging out selling bags in the projects
Checking the young chicks, looking for hit and run prospects
He was fascinated by material objects
But he understood money never bought respect”

“So Billy started robbing niggas, anything he could do
To get his respect back, in the eyes of his crew
Starting fights over little shit, up on the block
Stepped up to selling mothers and brothers the crack rock
Working overtime for making money for the crack spot
Hit the jackpot and wanted to move up to cocaine
fulfilling the scarface fantasy stuck in his brain
Tired of the block niggas treating him the same”
This post just doesn’t do it justice! Please, please listen to it. Honestly, if that’s all you take from this blog I will be happy – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qggxTtnKTMo

Here are some other notable songs;

Industrial Revolution.

“The bling-bling era was cute but it’s about to be done
I leave you full eclipse like the moon blocking the sun
my metaphors are dirty like herpes but harder to catch
like an escape tunnel in prison I started from scratch
and now these parasites wanna percent of asscap
trying to control perspective like an acid flashback”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bb3gB-qY2bQ
– Revolutionary. 

“Technique will force you into strategical retreat
Because I dominate guerrilla warfare in the streets
There ain’t no way to picture me without a victory speech
When I reach higher positions
Without the recognition of pissed on competition
Cause I conquered their ambitions
In a systematic form like a religionist tradition”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ss_6nKrzQ0
Honestly, Immortal Technique is up there with the greatest of all time. He’s just so on point with his music.

Now last but not least.

  • AZ – Never Change.One of the most slept on emcee’s. Dude has been around for centuries yet hasn’t ever got the recognition he’s deserved, the thing is he doesn’t bitch about it either. He’s a true artist. It’s his wordplay and rhyme scheme that has you just staring at your computer screen saying “damn did he just say that?” He was on Nas’ Illmatic album, in my eyes he’s influenced so many rappers with their techniques and flows yet just isn’t rewarded for it. His story telling ability is mixed between vivid wordplay and an intricate flow, it’s awesome! The song really details the story between him and his friend, they lost touch and he’s reminiscing about his friend and then they meet up again and hang out I guess, well that’s what I got from it anyway.

“You know the happenings, homies just yapping and
Hand shaking, laughing and exchanging all they math again
You usually lose touch when you traveling
A few dudes bruise up in the battling”

“Godly trained, he could camoflage on any terrain
Cardi frames, we go back like bottles and James
It’s a shame ‘cuz they say his baby mom is to blame
But nonchalantly, I refrained ‘cuz it constantly changed
From close range somebody please slowly explain
If they just wanted some jewels, why didn’t they go for the chain?
If they just wanted some news, they coulda left him in his Hanes
But no, they just left a nigga breathless and banged”

One of the cleanest and rawest flows in hip-hop, period. Check it out, now! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=covkh9ShXz4

Other notable songs;

I Am The Truth.
“Scrilla rap spitter, silverback gorilla, mass killer
Heavy hoodie cow, hide, half chinchilla
Watch for scrilla’s cuz they hastle the dealers, for reala
Y’all little niggaz, me I lex and grilla, I’m chilla
Pillows of purple had to seal up my circle
It’s serious, when your seralbello senses alert you
Pollack church shoes parolee homie’s home on curfew
Who’s commercial, I verbalize universal
Uniqueness, I’m nonchalant nigga no secrets
What ambiance never show weakness, control leakege
Live niggaz know I speak it
Verbalize outta eye, cuz we cohesive
Flow’s freakish
Dough is just honor the pieces to the puzzle
Like the streets always been to the struggle”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FcPSaYqwkUg

Sugar Hill.

“At times I wanna watch out the Mariot
Zoning on owning co-ops, foreign drop top coups
And yachts guzzling straight shots a scotch formulating up plots
To escape from Salem’s lock ’cause it’s scorching hot
Making it hard trying to figure who’s out ta trap me, Pataki
Got all kinds of under covers coming at me
Perhaps he, won’t be happy, till they snatch me
And place me where half slacks be, sitting in Catsaki
But never me, see my destiny ta be forever free
In ecstacy, on a hill that awaits for me
So plus, just to visualize is like a coke rush
Vivid enough to make living this a must, plus this is real”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lBeyeSCG5Ho

There’s my top 3 done! Honestly these 3 are up there in my greatest of all times list! Hopefully you will check out their songs and put some others on! If you have a favourite musician drop a comment, I’ll deffo check them out!

Enjoy your day!

:)

*I hate the way these words are spelt! It’s so yuck but sounds so good!

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My First Time Clubbing!

Boy oh boy, what an experience. Now, I’ve said this in the past and badgered on about it time and time again, I’m not a drinker. So you can see the conundrum I’ve got myself in, can’t you? The whole reason people go out to clubs I guess is to drink and have a good time, but who says you have to get drunk to the point where you pick fights with strangers and can hardly walk yourself home? The truth is I had an amazing time and in all honesty I wish I started going when I was 18. I’ve been missing out! Big time.

There’s a few niggles I have with clubs though.

I say clubs but in all honesty I really only mean ‘club’ seeing as it’s my only one. I know how much you guys and girls loves lists so….without further ado or is it adieu? I present to you my list, my niggles with clubbing!

  • Yes that’s my ID sir, please don’t reject me.
  • Yeah, having a light toned voice sucks.

“We’re finally in!”

“What did you say?” I said

“We’re finally in!”

You eventually make out the words “I can’t hear you” over the loud thumping of heavy bass.

  • Having that same problem trying to shout at the bar to tell them what beverage you would like.
  • Going to the dance floor but no one’s dancing! I mean this one pissed me off, big time. I was the only one who was jumping around enjoying myself, it seemed as if everyone else was just shuffling their feet! I mean seriously, it’s a dance club! Not a shuffle around club!
  • Sweating a stupendous amount that you have to take your top off as it’s drenched in drinks and god only knows what.
  • Some random photographer snapping up pictures of you mid dance and catching you off guard. Then having the nerve to upload them to Facebook!
  • Losing your friends only to miraculously meet with them after almost having a panic attack from the fear of being the loner in the club.
  • Those idiots on drugs that really can’t handle it. Calm down!
  • Dudes trying to gyrate their hips where it’s unwanted. If I was to ever get drunk I would hope for the life of me I would never do that. It’s just so, yuck. Especially when the person you’re doing it to doesn’t want you to do it. You come off as a creep. Side note, no male was gyrating at me, it was them trying to do it to females but they really didn’t want it.
  • Those people who walk past and have horrendous body odour, it just ruins your nose and lingers there.
  • Waiting for the 5 in the morning train to roll in as you haven’t slept in almost 24 hours only to find out it’s delayed. It’s delayed? IT’S 5 IN THE MORNING. How can you mess up that bad?
  • Waking up to your calf muscles ripping a hole through your skin because they burn so much from that excessive dancing.
  • Your voice being like a demonic spirit because you went overboard with the singing.
  • Last but not least, waking up from a long sleep to find out you still have your wallet, ID and keys.

Perfect.

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Today, I Quit My Job.

I finally did it. After months of endless thoughts of ‘do I?’ ‘Don’t I?’ I finally had the last straw and jumped ship. Yes folks, I’ve quit! I couldn’t be happier. Now, to tell you the truth it was a rather rash decision however I feel so much better for doing so, it’s almost as if this weight has been lifted from me and I can now begin a new career elsewhere. My career in retail is over; it was just a horrendous experience. 2 and a half years of my life wasted you could say, sure I’ve gained experience within the retail sector but it was 2 years of utter un-happiness. It seems like yesterday I wrote my first post on ‘why retails sucks’ and now I’ve finally decided to move on with my life. It’s such buzz to know I won’t be going back there!

It was a big jump for myself, most of the time I’m a bit more reserved to stand up for my rights and my human emotions/nature, there comes a time when you’ve decided you’ve taken enough crap from your managers and bitchy customers and it comes to the point of asking yourself ‘do you really deserve this?’ after weeks, months and years of being nice to each and every customer who walks through those doors to get complaints from them and your manager, it really gets to you. You give every customer your 100% best efforts and then you get pulled to the side for not persuading them to purchase extra insurance or put it on store credit. Excuse me? Did you not see how satisfied that customer was? Yet, you’re still going to moan and rant at me for not getting them to waste money on insurance they don’t need. That was my main reason for quitting and now it’s over, I shall reveal all.

I’ve been very strict with myself about revealing the real problems at work just in case someone there catches wind of this blog and then reads how bad I hate or I guess I should say hated my job. Truth be told I don’t care anymore. I won’t reveal the name of the company however I will tell you the real reasons as to why I decided to leave. When I first started it was all dandy, I was in my first job, learning new skills building confidence within work and outside of it and most of all, I was getting money! What’s not to love, right? All was well until my manager started having these mood shifts, it was every now and then where I would be doing my job, keeping the customers satisfied but he would criticize a certain aspect of how I went around it. Don’t get me wrong, you could see it as feedback however when you use a stern face and a voice with anger it becomes more like a ‘telling off’ this was all starting within my first month. I was a little taken back as it was my first job, I didn’t expect any of that. I figured he would lighten up as time went on. Oh, how I was wrong.

Month after month he would keep doing the same, one point he’ll be happy then the next his whole persona would change. I don’t want it to seem like I hate the guy because at times he was a great manager but he really knew how to bring a person down and make them feel worthless. Roughly one year into my job things got a lot more serious, we had a new area manager and he was just this grade a bully. He was on a true power trip. This was when they introduced selling insurance and getting people to purchase items on store credit. Each store had monthly targets we needed to hit, obviously if we didn’t hit targets the area manager wasn’t hitting targets, can you see where I’m going with this? So one month we don’t hit target, the area manger lays into my manager which internally means he lays into us. This happened for months and I was at the point where I didn’t want to turn up every day I was asked in. I was just getting shit from my manager’s day in and day out for not selling insurance.*

*We had techniques to try persuading customers to purchase it, for the most part I was hitting my targets but I really couldn’t care less about it after a while. To me I would much rather have the customer leave with an enjoyable shopping experience rather than feeling as if they’ve been interrogated and never want to shop here again. It’s not how business should be run. I get they must make a much higher profit from selling insurance however when the customer comes away and tells friends and family not to shop there it reflects pretty poorly. What’s even worse is being laid into because a customer just doesn’t want to purchase it, you can’t persuade someone who really doesn’t want to be persuaded, it’s just silly. Rant over.

Back to the story. These moods swing eventually got worse and worse and I just couldn’t take it for much longer, there comes a time when you just say no to all the shit in your life and decide you know what, I’m better than this. Well this was my day. He spoke to me as if I was worthless, even though I came in earlier to help out. He essentially complimented me on my service to customers and it felt great. He seemed happy but then his mood switched again, he proceeded to explain how I was under performing in all aspects of hitting targets and then he asked me ‘do you still want to keep your job?’ It was that point when I just had enough. My brain though about all the hard graft I put in to helping customers, helping the store and brand and because I wasn’t hitting a few targets I get treated like shit. No thanks. I handed in my resignation and my last working day’s Sunday. I have an interview on Monday for another job but to tell you the truth I’m just so overjoyed it’s over. I just want to say, I’m not hating or disrespecting my manager in any way. He has targets to hit as well, so if I’m not hitting he’s not hitting and he is then getting shit from his managers. I get where he’s coming from but his tactic of almost bullying me into selling insurance and making me feel like shit didn’t work.

Onto the next chapter I guess.

Enjoy your day!

:)

 

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Are You Religious?

Time and time again I’ve been asked this question, whether it’s by friends or family my answer still stays the same. No, I’m not religious, however I’m always open to the views and opinions of others and I guess there are a few exceptions to the term religious.

In my 18 years on this earth I’ve never been introduced to the idea of religion or joining a religious community, it’s something that my mind just doesn’t ‘get’ so to speak. When we left school at 16 we were all given this bible to take with us, it’s been sat on my shelf ever since until I opened it up the other day. I was intrigued. I was searching in all honesty, I felt stuck, I needed an answer, and I needed something to guide me. I just couldn’t find it.

I read chapter after chapter, verse after verse however it just doesn’t add up, so when someone asks me am I a religious person, it’s always going to be a no but in terms of finding your inner soul and your spirit, that’s a different story. At one point in time my mind just clicked, I never believed in having a soul or anything like that, to tell you the truth I thought it was a bit silly but now, now I feel different. There’s something so intriguing about finding your inner soul and being at one with yourself. I’m not sure if you can count that as religious however it’s as close as it gets to being religious for me.

As of late motivation for me has been up and down, I feel the job I’m in just isn’t doing me any favours. It’s sort of soul crushing you could say. I always said I never knew what I wanted from life but deep down I secretly knew. I was just too afraid to accept it. Now I’m starting to embrace that secret and starting to work towards it my mental and physical state is feeling much more ‘happier’ you could say. I guess the point I’m trying to make is; whatever makes you happy, do it. You will regret not being happy 30 years down the line. It feels as if my soul is happier, if that is even a thing. I don’t know it’s just nice to be at one with myself and truly accept what I want to be.

Society has a way of making us follow a set of rules which then turns into our reality. You know the score; school, college, university and then work. But what if you were to un-shackle yourself from that routine of life? What I mean by that is, why don’t you do what you want to do. To do what makes you happy. That’s what I’m going for, I’m taking it in very small baby steps but I can already feel a shift in my mind and my emotional state. I wake up every morning feeling a little bit more refreshed, a little bit more awake. There’s something nice about knowing you’re trying to change yourself, you’re trying to change for the better. 

I think the main part that’s really helped is just sitting down and organizing my life. I’m talking a big spring clean out of all the bad stuff and negativity and filling those gaps with positivity. I sat down and just mapped out my visions and almost created this ‘roadwork’ of where I want to be, who I want to be and what I wish to achieve and believe me, it really helps. It gives you something to strive for and keeps your path clear. 

When I started this post I was talking about religion and searching for god. In my eyes the only god is you. As long as you’re true to your morals and true to yourself, the rest should take care of itself. Well, that’s how I perceive it at the moment. People change, views change and the world keeps turning. All I’m trying to get across is, be true to you. 

Have a good day!

:)

 

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Leaked Celebrity Nudes. How Safe Are You Online?

The internet blew up last night, no not literally however figuratively speaking, it did. I witnessed it. Last night someone hacked the personal and I repeat personal data from top high ranking celebrities and proceeded to leak nude photos of them for personal gain, almost ruining their lives. 

As a society, in general we tend to overlook the safety of being online we forget about the scams, hackers and predators. We often brush it off and pretend it can never happen to us. For most of us we keep safe, do nothing illegal, sure you may download a few songs from YouTube to your iPod’s or mp3’s but nothing to serious however we tend to forget when we’re online that we need to keep safe, now more than ever. We like to reveal information all across the world. Think about it; Facebook, Twitter, Instagram hell even WordPress. How much information is spread globally for anyone to see? Information you’ve gave out.

Really, this post is more about staying safe online and being careful, I’m not sure if anyone has seen the news as of late but quite a fair few of ‘A list celebrities’ have had their accounts hacked and there private photos leaked. It’s truly shocking. Most of you have heard of these celebrities, the list includes the likes of Jennifer Lawrence, Ariana Grande and Kate Upton. What’s happened is, a hacker has got access to their personal data, some say it’s through iCloud however I’m pretty sure it’s just speculation at the moment and then accessed their personal photos. It’s all nudes. I can’t imagine what they’re going through at the moment. The hacker then proceeded to release them for the world to see.

It’s personal data for a reason. They’ve kept it from the public and someone’s gone and ripped their lives apart for personal gain, it really makes you wonder, if such a high endorsed celebrity can have their private data leaked out onto the web, how safe is yours? What the media will more than likely do in a few days is present these celebrities who are role models as ‘bad people’ when in reality they aren’t. They can do whatever the like, the media just put them on a higher pedestal because they have this power to influence. We’re all human at the end of the day and we’re bound to make mistakes. Those photos we’re their photos, no one else’s.

The images were posted on Sunday night on a few websites such as 4chan and Reddit and hey I’m not judging these celebrities or anything, you do what you want, it’s your life. If you wish to take naked photos do as you wish however you have to be careful. It’s an invasion of privacy and in my eyes a form of theft/burglary, but what’s worse is how brands such as TMZ have been rumoured to have offered the hacker a 6 figure sum for the photos. It’s a rumour though, yet if it’s true, it’s truly sickening. I guess I’m only adding fuel to the fire with this post, it’s like I’m ‘gossiping’ but I didn’t mean that to be the message. I really want everyone to re-think how they present themselves online and be more careful because if it can happen to them surely it can happen to anyone.

I only hope it doesn’t halt or stop any of the celebrity’s careers, it was personal photos for a reason. There’s bound to be a follow up in the news but I figured it’s best to alert a few people before it gets out of control. Once the internet has it, it spreads like wildfire. 

Stay safe.

 

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Photographs That Changed The World! (Part 3)

Recently I’ve been getting a few hits here and there on my historical photos posts so I’ve decided to compile another list for you guys, it would be silly not to, right? I think there’s something so interesting looking back into the past and being able to delve into how routines and how daily life worked there. There’s this enjoyment I get from visualizing history and witnessing what happened. You read about it at school and you don’t get to really get into it as much as you hoped for, that’s why photos give you a real sense of imagery. Well something along those lines anyway…For this post there won’t be any photographers names as most I were unable to find. If you know of a photographer who’s photo I’ve listed drop a comment or message me so I can include it, I would like to give credit where credits due! Some of these photos hold real emotion within them so if one upsets you, I can only apologise. Enjoy.


 

Unpacking the head of the statue of liberty. 

statue of liberty head


 

Elvis in the army.

elvis in the army


 

The last known Tasmanian Tiger.

tasmanian tiger


 

Nagasaki 20 minutes after the atomic bomb.

nagasaki


 

Californian lumberjacks working on Redwoods. 

lumberjack on redwoods


 

The 1912 world series.

1912 world series


 

Construction of the statue of liberty’s head.

statue of liberty


 

Adolf Hitlers pants after the failed assassination attempt.

hitler

 


 

The unbroken seal of King Tut’s tomb.

tuts


 

A refugee carrying his cholera stricken wife. (I just want to point out the determination this man has, look at the emotion in his face)

refugee


 

Shell shocked soldier. This photo just shows how devastating wars can be.

Shell shocked soldier, 1916

 


 

A KKK child meets a black state trooper.

A KKK child


 

Children playing with hyperinflation money in 1922.

hyperinfl


 

Job hunting in the 1930’s.

Job hunting in 1930's


 

Theodore Roosevelt’s diary the day his wife and mother died.

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Rat catchers of the 1900’s.

Rat catchers


 

Child laborers smoking cigarettes.

Child laborers


 

Brotherly love. This young Japanese boy carries his fallen brother all the way to a cremation pyre. So shocking.

A Japanese boy


 

Hats in New York.

Hats


 

German soldiers reacting to footage of the concentration camps.

German soldiers


 

Slaves shackles being removed.

Slave


Last public execution by guillotine.

Last public execution by guillotine


 

Easter eggs for Hitler.

Easter eggs for Hitler, 1945


 

Himmler and a prisoner in a stare down.

Himmler


 

The last Jew in Vinnitsa.

The last Jew in Vinnitsa

 

That wraps this one up! 

Enjoy your day!

:)

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What’s Your Biggest Fear?

We get up at 8:00; hit the cupboards for some food to fuel our every crushing endless thoughts of negativity then we head on for the short shower to wash away the depressive thoughts we’re having. This takes us roughly 30 minutes, and then we haul off to a job we hate. How many of you don’t want to be doing that? Wouldn’t you rather be working your ass off to create your own dreams rather than helping another person build theirs? This thought hit me hard the other day. Why am I getting up and letting another person control my whole life. Why am I waking up tired, a little angry and just drained from all of life? I bet you’re thinking well it’s your bosses fault or putting the blame elsewhere. In reality it starts with you and ends with you. The only reason I’m feeling that way is because I’ve let myself get that way. No one else, just me. I bet you’re thinking well why are you still there? Really that’s an easy one. It’s the fear of change.

The thought of breaking away from everything you know everyone you once knew and starting over again. It’s the opinions of others that talk to you. Well I’m going to put this very bluntly, screw that. Who cares what they think? Who cares if you change and do what you want to do? It’s time to embrace your true potential. Each and every one of you reading this are fantastic, you have a true meaning to someone out there in the world, a skill you harness but you aren’t doing anything with it. I’m not doing anything with mine. I’m stuck. We’re in a generation of laziness and silly behaviour where we don’t really work hard. We like to think we do but we don’t. You, yes you reading you can really do whatever you like, it’s your life, no one else’s. We just need to break from this day to day routine and say “you know what, I’m doing something different today, it’s time to enjoy life” otherwise I’m going to be 30 and do the same things as I did at 18.

In our society today more than ever, we like to put fear on such a high pedestal to the point where you end up getting comfy with the way you live even if you have to sacrifice your emotions and enjoyment. Let me ask you a few questions, how many of you really deep down enjoy your job? Could you do it without pay you enjoy it that much? Why are you letting someone else control your one and only life? Don’t think I’m being nasty at anyone either, shit I’m in the same boat as everyone else just my boats sinking and I’m going to do something to stop that. I’ve said it in the past time and time again “oh I’m going to try this avenue or try this one” in reality I was just being lazy and saying that to make myself think I was trying for change. I wasn’t.

I can guarantee a few of my readers have done the same as well, you’ve got up to a job you don’t want to be at and told yourself “I need to change” but you, well we’re still there slaving our assess off for someone else’s dreams, why? We’re far to comfy with our state of living, I’ve got happy living pay check to pay check even though I come home at nights and feel down. That’s not life, what kind of way of living is that? It’s time to stop making excuses. The world isn’t all dandy as it is now, we’re just stuck in a position where we like to think it is. When you get that pay stub you think it’s all great you think you’re winning but in reality you aren’t winning, you’re suffering. After you’ve spent that pay check on food, rent or the everyday necessities, how much have you got left? That’s not living, it’s surviving. It’s not enjoyable to work all those long, gruelling hours and have nothing to show.

One quote I wish to share and is one that really sticks with me is; “the graveyard is the richest place on earth.” I forgot who it was by so I do apologise for that however the point that I’m trying to get across is, change and fear is necessary however if you don’t do anything about it nothing will happen. You have to embrace to fear otherwise when the time comes your dreams and ambitions die with you. You may have had an invention you wanted to create when you were 30, a career you wanted to pursue when you were 50 but that fear held you back. You end up doing the same job day in day out and you eventually leave this life. Those rich and beautiful ideas are taken to grave and no one can benefit from them.

You must be thinking, but why haven’t you changed anything? It’s all good me telling you things I’ve learned but I’m in the same position as everyone else. I’m afraid to break off into the shadow of the un-known for the fear of being ridiculed, for the fear of being wrong. It’s scary; don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t. I’ve just let myself get comfy within an environment I shouldn’t be in. That’s not what I want when I wake up every morning. If this was my last day on earth, would I really want to be working a job I hate or doing whatever it is I love? There was a video I watched where Steve Jobs said something along the lines ” I wake up every morning look in the mirror and ask myself if this was my last day am I happy with my life, if the answers no then something needs to change” don’t quote me on that word for word but it really hits the nail on the head though, I haven’t been happy for some time now, I have to change. Let me say that again I have to change. I can’t be depending on anyone else to do it for me, I can’t be scared, I just have to do so.

Just decide. Just do. Be happy. To hell with what everyone else thinks, just do YOU.

My whole goal when I started this blog was to create it as an advertising tool however things change, that idea flopped and I just continued blogging. I think the goal now is to still do the same blogging posts I do but include my process with change and help others.

I want to challenge all my readers, do what you love and make the change today!

Every day is a new day. Make the change now I know I am.

:)

*spelling of gruelling and behaviour is different over here in the UK.

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Photographs That Changed The World! (Part 2)

I love a good batch of photos. Well, when I say photos I have to tread carefully, what I really mean is photos not of me, those ones suck! I can never get the right smile, the perfect angle. It’s a skill I have yet to acquire. Than god for trusty old Instagram! 

Today’s post is just me really spreading the photos that influence my thoughts and hit home with me, these are pride, pain, suffering all wrapped into one. It’s a bit on the edgy side but I feel you guys should see them. Before I start though I just want to explain a few things; I’ve been rather busy as of late due to work and things like that therefore my posts aren’t going to be as constant as they once were. I remember once being able to churn out a post each day a little while ago and now it’s almost as if I haven’t got the ability to write one anymore. It’s not that I don’t want to post it’s more that I’m un-sure on what to post about. Work’s beginning to take its toll a little so I haven’t been able to focus on this as much therefore my posts won’t be as constant as they once were!

Like I was saying for today’s blog I just wanted to do something similar as a post I did around a week ago. Essentially it’s going to be quick but some of these pictures will last a lifetime. This one’s short and sweet! If you didn’t get to see my first post, here’s a link to it:

http://routinedreamer.com/2014/08/20/photographs-that-changed-the-world/


The Plight Of Kosovo Refugees – Carol Guzy

 

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Fire On Marlborough Street – Stanley J. Forman

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Oklahoma City Bombing – Charles Porter

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Reichstag Flag – Yevgeny Khaldei

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Assassination Of Japan Socialist Inejiro Asanuma – Yasushi Nagao

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Hooded Iraqi Prisoner Comforting His Child – Jean-Marc Bouju

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Niagara Falls Frozen – Unknown

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Hitler In Paris – National Archives

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Afghan Girl – Steve McCurry (This one’s not photo shopped)

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The Fall Of Saigon – Hubert Van Es

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The Assassination Of John F Kennedy – Unknown

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Ground Zero Spirit – Thomas E. Franklin

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Challenger Explosion – NASA Tracking Camera

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Black Power – Unknown

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The Soul Of A Horse – Peter Thomann

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That wraps it up for today’s post! Last time I included some context about the picture and the situation around the photo however I just felt today you needed to witness these without any dialogue or witty lines. Some of these are truly phenomenal, they make your spine tingle with fear, joy, pride a huge variety of emotions. It’s funny how one single picture can change the minds of nations. 

Enjoy your day folks!

:)

 

 

I’ve Been In A Car Accident!

I’ve not been missing posts but I’ve unfortunately been in a car accident! I was on the way home from town with my friends and the bus broke down on the motorway and unfortunately a lorry came and hit right where I was sat. I’ve broke 3 bones in my leg and won’t be out of hospital for a while, sorry for the poor grammar I’m currently writing this drug induced! The featured photo where the back right of the bus is smashed is where I was actually sat, my leg was stuck there for a good 5 minutes as I was dangling from the side of the bus! I will go into more detail when I recuperate but for now I need some rest!

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Many thanks!

Photo of the Day!

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Racial Segregation In America.

What are your thoughts?

“Just A Memory”

As my days feel longer and my brittle bones begin to weaken,

I drift like the sea, a spark dampened, my mind a dimming beacon.

My legs are shaken and my fingers start to tremble,

My thoughts are twisted influenced by the devil.

I’m scared, for my mind has become weary and traumatic,

Lost with cluttered thoughts like an upstairs attic.

I’m a broken man, fragile and frail,

An enigma of a working man until his life turns stale.

I was once a dreamer, a young chap with ambition,

But my mind was to poor, as if it were locked in a prison.

Now I’m seeking some solace for I fear the end is near,

Please don’t pity me, not a drop or a tear.

You see, I was never a religious man but tonight I must try,

I’m sacrificing all my beliefs as I ponder, why?

It’s thoughts like these that torment my ever growing pain,

All that’s left is my memory like a stain.

Photo Of The Day!

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Hats in New York, 1930.

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“The Junkie”

The snow gently settles upon the cracked window pane,

The lost junkie lights up to release his pain.

A cold breath, a sharp intake of frost,

All is well as his blood stream gets lost.

He falls to his torn cardboard with ripped chars of burning embers,

A light snatched like the fireworks of November.

He’s lost on his road within a blaze of flames,

A scrambled journey travelling with a scrambled brain.

The dreamers continue to hustle, the city workers jostle past,

The junkie sits and stares surrounded by burnt chars.

No one notices him, slumped on the streets with his fingers froze,

He wakes from a dream where he sleeps with gold around his toes.


Don’t forget you can now send in your blog submissions and poetry submissions for next weeks post! Send them to:

routinedreamer@gmail.com

The rules and guidelines are in this post! http://routinedreamer.com/2014/11/17/blog-and-poem-submissions-rules-all-that-jazz/


You can also follow me here!

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Photo Of The Day!

Opium Den, Singapore - 1941

Opium den in Singapore, 1941.

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“A Blossoming Love”

It’s funny; all it takes is a glance and I’m entranced,

A stare from your eyes that makes me forget about the sky.

A stunning smile that makes me grow so wild,

A chance to release my inner-child.

The tidal waves crash as our souls connect,

The moon light brightens my feelings as we forget,

Past lovers and friends, it’s as if time has stopped,

Our eyes in line, ever so inter-locked.

I approach and make the first connection,

We exchange information and I feel a slight tension,

We arrange dates and set up meetings,

Butterflies in my stomach it’s as if I’m dreaming.

Fast forward a few years, we’ve settled down and had a few kids,

And just to think if I didn’t approach you, I wouldn’t have any of this,

A home to lay my soul to rest,

A chance to feel entranced within a lovers nest.

It was, a look that made me close my book,

A smile that made me grow so wild,

A chance to take you to the dance,

A love to create a beautiful child.

A world where I didn’t feel so lost,

A love far to priceless where time has no cost.


Don’t forget you can now send in your blog submissions and poetry submissions for next weeks post! Send them to:

routinedreamer@gmail.com

The rules and guidelines are in this post! http://routinedreamer.com/2014/11/17/blog-and-poem-submissions-rules-all-that-jazz/


You can also follow me here!

http://instagram.com/routinedreamer


Photo Of The Day!

Toffs and Toughs“Toffs and Toughs” – Jimmy Sime – 1937.

The image shows the class divide before pre-war Britain.

What are your thoughts?